Is anyone having the most awful thoughts about the baby not developing/being deformed etc?

[Victoria72]

Hi, this is my second pregnancy (I have a boy of 4.5) but I just seem to be thinking of the worse case scenarios all the time. I've had my 12 week scan and all was well. I'm having dreadful morning sickness and headaches but all in all everything is OK. I just keep having the most dreadful daydreams about something going wrong and I can't get it out of my head. Am I alone?

[Luxmum]

I highly doubt it, I was the same for my first, didn't relax till after I had that huge detailed scan when he was a few months old. For teh current pregnancy I've been too sick/busy with DS1 to really think about it thank God. I think/hope it's something you grow out of as your scans keep proving all is ok, though my panic actually got worse around 8-9 months when he felt more 'real' and I knew I would just have to wait before I could help/do anything for him. Hope things get better for you.

[Victoria72]

Thanks Luxmum. I keep telling mysel I'm not going Tarantino but I do keep looking at the most morbid images on Google etc. I've got to stop doing it because it's making me feel quite ill. I just need to be a bit more positive. Feeling sick all the time doesn't help but I shall have to try a little harder. Onwards and upwards me thinks (hopes)!

[Bodkin]

yes me too. And I've had my 20 week scan now - all is fine - but still worry. its horrible isn't it.

[potoroo]

Definitely not alone. I think about it all the time!
I also had a nightmare in my first pregnancy that the baby was so deformed that the midwife wouldn't show him to me.

[Miaou]

It's totally natural Victoria! I reckon it's just pregnancy hormones working overtime. I'm not too bad this time round but when I was pg with my third I worried about every little thing (I think I had too much time on my hands whilst my girls were at school!) This time round I'm running round after ds (18m) so I haven't got as much time to "brood" over things.

[cupcake78]

In my last pregnancy I had a recurrent dream that my baby would have no feet!! for some reason this terrified me. I remember thinking I was a bad mother at 11 weeks because I felt if it was true then it shouldn't matter anyway.

Dating scan proved that I was a complete loon.

My friends have all had concerns of some sort or another so you are not alone.

[MrsMar]

Hi Victoria, I'm the same, I've got my 12 week scan next week and I'm bricking it. I have absolutely no idea what to do if there's something wrong because I've been trying so hard not to think of things like this. I remember my friend having her first when we were all just out of school, and so innocent, and she said one day it's terrifying when you think of the things that can go wrong. In my youth I dismissed all her fears, but she's so right (her baby was fine of course, and is now a strapping 16 year old) I'm just trying to focus that the vast majority of babies are born with no problems at all. Hope everything carries on well for the next 6 months xx