I've been really struggling. Thoughout my pregnancy my boyfriend has gone out and ended up out for 3 days at a time. Afterwards he's spent all his money leaving me to pay all the bills qand doesn't go to work for 3 days afterwards. I always get a gut instinct to check his phone and when i do I always find messages and pictures from numerous other women. As a result of this I have developed anxiety issues when he goes out I break down have and panic attack and have a constant worry that something going to happen and I'm going to be on my own and he tells me I'm being controlling. I have no one to turn to as I've been cut off from all my friends and feel embarrased to speak to any of my family about it. When I try to tell him how I'm feeling he doesn't listen he just continues to drink and says I'm being stupid and that I can't expect him to stay in the house with me all the time. I've bought everything for the baby, he contributes nothing but because his parents have helped us out he thinks that is his contribution he always throws that in my face. He never comes to any of my appointments with me and to be honest he has just left me to organise everything. I've never felt so alone during a time that is meant to be the happiest, he has made me miserable! I feel like I've not had the chance to enjoy being pregnant and bond with my unborn child which breaks my heart and scares me that I won't bond when he arrives ☹️ When I have tried to leave he tells me I won't be able to do this on my own I need him and that he would take the baby away from me when he is born. I hate my boyfriend for how he's made me feel but I feel trapped as though I can't leave! I need advise on ways to tackle this problem. Just a bit of advise. What can I do ☹️
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Perhaps his parents won't be very receptive to stories of his dreadful behaviour. I'm sorry that your mum didn't listen though. What about any siblings or friends or other family members?
Your boyfriend sounds like a complete arsehole. I've had an emotionally manipulative relationship in the past and it sapped everything out of me. You would be doing both you and your baby a huge disservice to stay with someone who belittles you. Also, imagine what type of a parent your bf will be if this is how he behaves. He's shown you who he is, please don't stay.
Two practical thoughts:
You might want to think about leaving him off the birth certificate too?
Call Womansaid for advice
So sorry OP. Here if you need to chat or a handhold. 
Hi OP
My heart does go out to you - What a really difficult and upsetting situation to be in. No-one deserves this. But equally, how strong and grounded you are, refusing to be dragged down completely and reaching out for a hand. You actually deserve huge praise.
Although incredibly empowering, deciding to leave someone is a huge decision and if nothing else at the moment, I would recommend ypu seek support and lots of it. Use supportive friends and family members. Speak to your GP and perhaps seek out some counselling - Depending on on your age there are sometimes charities who can provide a (sometimes) quicker route into talking therapy.
You seem to be surrounded a lot of negativity because of the way you are being treated and you may need to counteract that negativity with positive people and positive thoughts.
I just wanted to touch on also, your concerns about bonding with your unborn child. We are, of course, all very different - But for me, I didn't bond with any of my children until after they were born. In the first case - not until she was a few months old (14 years later - I still feel pretty crap at times about that). With my second, it was love at first sight and with this one (due -4 days ago), I seem to spend more time worrying about him than I do thinking about bonding - Something I will regret later, I'm sure! In all three cases, I was almost certain that the bonding process would pan out differently to the way it did - So sometimes it's best to just play these things by ear and, more importantly, not give yourself a hard time about it too 
Ultimately, I would say to:
- Take each day as it comes - Don't worry ahead of time too much.
- Find a little happiness in each day. If it's difficult, write it down (ask yourself: what went right today, what was good, what am I grateful for). Eventually, if it's the right thing - you'll add your boyfriend on to this list for helping to open your eyes to what you truly deserve - Because 1. You found the strength to leave or 2. Because you made it clear to him that his behaviour is unacceptable and he changed - Rare but does happen).
- Build up your support network.
You sound sensible, so I am sure that with the above you would eventually do whatever it is that is right for you (and bub, of course).
Wishing you all good luck
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