Bit of background we met when we both worked in finance working 60hour weeks with lots of stress and responsibility. My 11year old has autism, but my ex was always very hands on with him so I managed to balance things (badly). My DS was diagnosed with a skin cancer caused by underlying issue when he was 7 He had 3 Op's in space on 6 months and I managed to cope until I cracked a year later when it returned and decided I was leaving work to focus on my DS. My ex and my then new partner both agreed with this decision and supported it.
I had enough savings for a 2 year break meaning I planned on returning once my DS started senior school. ( This Sept)
So I became a SAHM doing various volunteer work when DS was in school.
My new partner moved in and everything was bliss. I did all home stuff he focused on work.
Then we decided to have a baby which we knew might be difficult due to my history. However 3rd time lucky and I'm now 36 weeks.
However things at home have changed. Where before I was happy to pick undies, plates, socks up off the floor I am now knackered and sick of it.
My DS needs a lot of structure which I provide but I feel my OH is now taking the piss. He is so lazy. But because he now supports us financially I feel unable to pull him. We have rented my old house out and OH bought us a new big house as soon as we knew we needed more space. The house constantly needs cleaning. We are in the middle of the ongoing development so the dust is unbelievable. (DS has asthma so I need to hoover constantly).
His hours at work have settled so he now does a standard 40 hour week. However apart from his 'man jobs, building shed, converting garage into boys room) he does nothing.
Last night he came in and fell asleep for 2 hours. Woke to have dinner and watch football!! He then told me his parents are visiting next weekend and he is thinking on taking his dad to the stables (he is in horsing syndicate, nothing fancy). The stables are 2.5 hours away!! I flipped and said there is no way is he having a night away a week and a half before I go in to hospital (Leaving me to entertain his mum and nephew).
I'm so friggen angry, that he is being so thoughtless but I don't know if I'm justified. He is great with my DS and my DS loves him (so do I) and if I ask him to do something he will do it. But it would be nice for him to come in and tell me to go to bed while he sorts stuff.
Do I have it out with him. Or just hope I'm so annoyed because of hormones!! To add, my back is in agony I am prob getting about 3 hours sleep a night so that isn't helping.
Sorry for the long post. I'm hormonal, tired and about to walk the dog
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Doingitover · 21/06/2016 09:55
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