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Moan moan moan.............................................

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SHHHHsantaiscoming · 10/12/2006 20:44

Im 32 weeks and I have had enough.! We already have a dd who is 18 months old, I'm the size of a beached whale, can't sleep at night, have spd, sciatica and the whole length of my legs ache at night thus causing me lack of sleep........

I now have stretch marks on the tops of my legs around the underneath bit of my bum iykiwm.........

DD is ill so we have had around 6 hours sleep in 3 days and I don't think I can carry on carrying this baby for much longer let alone how we will cope once he arrives...............I feel like I have been pregnant for the last 9 years. We are also due out as a group for a meal on saturday and you know what.............I can't be arsed going.I will be the fattest there and feel uncomfortable anyway without dressing up for meal etc.

Yes yes I know I am hormonal but I want my body back. I don't want to sound ungrateful as having exprienced mc's dh & I know how hard life can get BUT I don't think I can do this pregnancy lark no more..I don't even think I can give birth..it scares me and I don't think I am strong enough to do it all again...

Hormonal outburst over

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nearlythree · 10/12/2006 20:49

I felt like that with no3. Are you anaemic?

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nearlythree · 10/12/2006 20:50

(btw with both nos 2 and 3 I felt much better once they were here. I have two yrs between dd1 and dd2 and the same between dd2 and ds and we cope!)

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Miaou · 10/12/2006 20:56

aw shhhhh, it's crap isn't it??

I'm at the other end of pg atm (8 weeks) and am really suffering too - it just feels so bloody miserable and however much sympathy you get you always feel like that you are the only one who knows what it's like ... !

(((((((hugs))))))))

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SHHHHsantaiscoming · 10/12/2006 21:03

thanks nearly3..its nice to know that we will cope once baby arrives.ATM I can't see the wood for the treaa's. I suppose I am quite negative atm..

Miaou, Yes I chatted to you a few days ago about being pregnant..I agree, we do seem to think we are the only one's who know how it is..! Thing is when I think about it the weight and stretch marks are not too much of an issue as I know I WILL cope with them once baby arrives but I suppose its the shock of finding such things and in such bizarre places, I think I just see my body as failing . How are you miaou..?

Said tonight to dh that I want to ask my mw about inducing me early..I really don't want this BUT how can I go another 8 weeks or more..???

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Daisypops · 10/12/2006 23:00

Hi SHHHH, can you ask to be induced early?

I'm 36 weeks on Thursday and have had enough. Can't sleep and can hardly walk due to pain in my coccyx.

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UCM · 10/12/2006 23:08

moan moan moan tooo with everything OP said.......I feel for you, I had a sleep earlier on but can't sleep now, it's horrid.....dreading going to bed as the heartburn will start the minute I get horizontal plus the 'legs want to walk but body/mind doesn't will start as well.......I could go on & on & on but won't as I have put DH through it already for the whole afternoon. 33 weeks.

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Nemoinapeartree · 10/12/2006 23:11

shhhhhhhhhh can completely sympathise, am 35wks with no.3 with a 3,2yrold and a nearly 1yr old. All had that coughy horrible bug for 2wks and spd has come back full force the past week.

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nearlythree · 10/12/2006 23:12

There would have to be a very good reason. I was the size of a small family car by the time I was 30 wks, at 36 wks my gp sent me to see my consultant (I had a section booked at 39 plus 5 days which we thought a bit close for comfort) and although I had an unstable lie they wouldn't section me before 39 wks as before that the risks of the baby having breathing problems dramatically increase. I ended up spending a fortnight in hospital waiting for my section.

So I would be very surprised if they'd induce before 39 wks unless the baby or you were in danger.

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Tommy · 10/12/2006 23:22

can really sympathise - feel the same and ungrateful as well. I'm sure I have been so negative to everyone who has asked me how I am recently

I found out on Friday that am anaemic though so double does of iron from now on which I hope will help.

Roll on February

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Miaou · 11/12/2006 08:44

Thanks for asking shhhh - still feeling pretty lousy and being sick more than once day (which is too much imo! ). And I could be only halfway through as far as ms goes judging by previous pregnancies - argh. Trying to be cheerful but I do get really fed up sometimes. You have my complete sympathy.

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MrsJohnCuSackFullOfPresents · 11/12/2006 08:49

sympathy here too, but feel so guilty for moaning, sister has just lost another baby and it looks like she won't be trying again and won't have children at all.

but it is grim. 29 weeks, SPD, heartburn, can't get comfortable to sleep, very anaemic so knackered, enormous, plus DD (just 2) has reverted to newborn habits, I was up from 3am last night and couldn't get back to sleep (took 2.5 hours to get her to go back to sleep), now she is bawling in her cot as we've been trying to get her to go to bed for over 2 hours. In a new country with no friends, no antenatal group and no energy.

wondering how the hell I'm going to cope getting 2 of them to sleep when 1 won't even sleep at the moment.

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bctmum · 11/12/2006 08:51

feel for you shhhhhh

I was huge whilst preg & other mums weren't. The no sleep part is very hard as is looking after other kids.

Big hugs xxx

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bumperlicious · 11/12/2006 19:58

Hi shhh and all the others. I feel for you, I'm a right old moaning minnie and only 3 months in, I don't know how I am going to manage the rest of this pregnancy, let alone anyone around me!
Wish I could offer any helpful suggestion but as a first timer I don't have any advice, but just wanted to empathise. Being pregnant sucks! (I know I should be grateful etc., just hard to get through it all). Anyone who says it's the most natural thing in the world wants a punch in the mouth!
Hope you feel better soon, and Miaou too.

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SHHHHsantaiscoming · 14/12/2006 15:24

only just come back to mn as dd has been ill so lack of time to get here..!

Thanks for the replies, nice to see its not just me. Well I saw my mw on tuesday and she commented that I did appear big BUT once measured I am measuring 33 weeks so its spot on. However when I asked if she could guess babies size she feared it may be big and that at my next appointment in 3 weeks time if I was still looking big she would send me for a scan..if baby was big then they wouldn't let me go beyond 38 weeks.

Sigh....................I so want this baby now as my body is going to give up soon BUT on the otherhand an induction worries me......in fact the whole pregnancy lark is scaring me now...
I don't think I can carry on for another 7 weeks and more to the point I don't think I could cope with the birth..DH & I did want a large family BUT he's now aware that THIS IS IT.! He can have his nads cut off asap for all I care.

I feel like a whale and I hate the comments "oh you must be due to pop soon" and the looks of sympathy when I reply "oh nope...another 7 weeks" usually through gritted teeth.

I have spent an afternoon trying to convince dh by text that men do get a better deal. I mean, he's got a cold and feels like he is dying. Wonder if he wants to swap places..???