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:'( need advice.

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juniorbabybump123 · 16/05/2015 17:53

My boyfriend is always looking at other girls right in front of me. Makes me so upset I always try talking to him about it but he turns it round on me I love him to bits don't know what to do anymore & being pregnant makes it harder to walk away been together 3 years need advice.

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sausagedogsrus · 16/05/2015 18:21

How old are you both?

juniorbabybump123 · 16/05/2015 18:26

30 & 27 xx

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Cherryapple1 · 16/05/2015 18:28

If he refuses to change then you either stay and put up with it or leave. It isn't your fault. It seems a horrid way to live. What do you mean he turns it on you?

juniorbabybump123 · 16/05/2015 18:29

He will say its all in my head or stuff like that x

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juniorbabybump123 · 16/05/2015 18:47

He just told me I'm not worth it when I'm pregnant with his baby ;(

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Withalittlesparkle · 16/05/2015 18:51

He sounds charming!

I'd honestly consider what he adds to your life if he's upsetting you this much.

PotteringAlong · 16/05/2015 18:55

Is he actually looking at other girls or do you just think he is?

gingerbreadmam · 16/05/2015 19:02

weird. i just had exact same convo with my dp and we are both the same age as you and yours too.

my dp definitely looks but i dont know if its a subconscious thing or whether he is actually checking them out. hes done it for sometime but i think now im pregnant, not at my best and our sex life has gone off the boil a bit i notice it more and it makes me feel a bit insecure.

your dp really shouldnt react like that though which is what would annoy me the most.

Cherryapple1 · 16/05/2015 19:10

He sounds an utter charmer. What else does he do which is horrid, because I guarantee there is more to this than you are saying. Where is your self esteem? You deserve so much more than this.

orangutanhihio · 16/05/2015 20:10

Sorry op, you can do much better than him. A decent man doesn't make his partner feel paranoid or unattractive, you're not here just to please him! He doesn't sound good.

juniorbabybump123 · 16/05/2015 21:17

Not easy when you love someone thou && know he will be a great dad xx

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Cherryapple1 · 16/05/2015 21:25

I disagree. A great dad doesn't treat the mother of his child like crap. And you staying with someone who treats you badly is giving your child a blueprint of what sort of relationship they should have too.

juniorbabybump123 · 16/05/2015 21:47

He's not the type of man to argue in front of his child

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Paperblank · 16/05/2015 22:06

He might not be the type to argue in front of his child but from what you've said in your posts he's not coming across well.

And as for turning your comments around and upsetting you - which it has done otherwise you wouldn't have posted - that's just awful.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with his "charming" ways. He's a plonker.

Cherryapple1 · 17/05/2015 09:18

And there is nothing you can say or do to change him. This is how he is. He is showing you what sort of person he is - you need to listen. Because he will not get better, prob worse. Don't you think you deserve better than that?

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