Warning: this will likely be long!
I'm 36, very nearly 37 weeks pregnant. I've made it very clear throughout that I don't want a baby shower. I hate being the centre of attention in that way, I don't want to play stupid games, I don't want to seem grabby or like I'm expecting gifts.
A couple of my friends seemed like they really wanted to organise something, so I said ok, maybe we could go for a meal, something small and casual and easy to digest. This was absolute weeks ago. I did use tapas as an example of something I'd be ok with, but I wasn't saying that was the only thing I would want to do.
Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago and I thought it had all been forgotten about. It got brought up again and we agreed that this weekend could work for something small. Again, I stressed small, casual etc. We suggested going just to a pub in the afternoon, really informal. That I could deal with.
Now this week my friend has been on with sorting it. There are as many people coming as I'd be comfortable with (and pushing it at that). She's sent out a text today to confirm where we'd be going and I really do not want to go. I've looked at the menu and I don't like the food. I'm not a fussy eater by any means but this is all fish, smoked cheese, cured meats etc - all things I either don't like or that are a bit iffy to have in pregnancy! Plus it looks expensive, and I don't like the thought of people having to spend that kind of money on my behalf. And because I'm so bloody pregnant I don't have any "nice" clothes that fit and this place looks quite fancy.
So! I know I'm being incredibly ungrateful because my friend has gone to the trouble of organising it, but I really really do not want to go. I don't know what to do. My ridiculous pregnancy hormones are making me cry every time I think about it. WWYD? Suck it up and go or be honest and apologise for the effort she's spent but say you don't want to go? I feel really stuck
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Baby shower/I'm being ungrateful, snap me out of it
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avocadotoast · 24/04/2015 17:56
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