5 weeks pregnant and feel (irationally) that I am going to miscarry

[OrchidFlakes]

I had a MMC with my first pregnancy and then had a healthy, easy pregnancy with DS in 2012. I am now pregnant with a much wanted DC2 but cant's shake the feeling something is going to go wrong, almost that I want it too much.

Can anyone talk some sense into me and help me relax a little. We have an early scan booked in 2 weeks as I can't wait for 12 weeks to know or not and did the same with DS.

Apologies if this sounds wingey and indulgent, I'm just feeling really scared and worried and I can't work out why.

[LBNM19]

I can totally understand how you feel, I was the same in early pregnancy and I've never had a miscarriage it's a very scary time. I was in the toilet constantly checking. Just wanted to reassure you it's normal. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy I'm sure everything will be fine xx

[eurochick]

I was the same. I had a scan at my clinic at 6 weeks (IVF) and was certain that there would be nothing there. I'd had a previous IVF mc and just couldn't get my head around the fact that this one might work out.

[ohjesus]

I felt excatly the same and you, and i have never suffered a miscarriage.

I was so worried i wouldn't see a heartbeat at my 7 week scan, i came out reassured.

I then was so worried i wouldnt see one at my 12 week.

Guess what? I was still worried come my 20 week scan.

I am slightly more relaxed now i can feel him move, although i did start a thread about a reduction in movement the other day!

I dont think the worrying is ever going to stop now!

Just relax and enjoy it! There is nothing you can either way.

X

[TinyMonkey]

Totally empathise. Had a mmc last year, got pregnant again 9 months later. The anxiety at the beginning was awful, I had a scan at 7+4, convinced I'd hear the same dreaded 'I'm sorry there's no heartbeat'. But it was fine. It didn't stop me freaking out before my 12, 15 and 20 week scans as well though. I had very few pregnancy symptoms either which added to the conviction that it wasn't going to work.

Eventually I just had to try and relax and believe that if it's meant to be it will be, and if not, there is very little I can do about it. Easier said than done I know, but anxiety and stress helps no one, least of all you or your baby.

Good luck!

[OrchidFlakes]

Thank you all, it's helpful just to hear others experiences. I don't remember feeling this with DS.

The next 2 weeks can't go quickly enough until I can have the scan and see how things are going xx

[TheScenicRoute]

I think this is horribly normal. Certainly until 13 weeks, and even then it never really leaves you. Good luck. X

[Jenjenwoo]

I feel the same. I'm approximately 4/5 weeks. I take a pregnancy test every day, sometimes morning and night just to check I'm still pregnant.

I've never miscarried but we have been trying for 2 years unsuccessfully and then 2 weeks after our initial appointment with the fertility unit ( no treatment, just blood tests and seamen check) I find out I'm pregnant and kind of by accident, had slight cramping and a pol came back positive but I knew I wasn't due to ovulate so I poas and got my BFP ! Now I'm worried sick it won't stick as I feel it's too good to be true and I want it too much. Plus I have pcos so I'm aware I'm at increased risk of early loss! I've decided to pay for an early scan at 7 weeks in the hope I'll get to hear a heart beat.

Happy and health 9 months to everyone xxx

[Keziahhopes]

I could have posted your post too. it is scary and overwhelming now - and I have booked a private early scan as well.

Jen - I have up just done a test at midnight, having not tested for 2 days!

Hope early scan helpful Orchard.

[splendide]

Yeah I was the same. Until the 12 week scan I used to pop to the loos at work about every 15 mins to check I wasn't bleeding. I relaxed a bit after 20 weeks and now at 35 weeks I feel a bit better again, I can feel him all the time.

Sorry no real advice other than it's pretty normal.

[tiggy2610]

Another one who experienced the same in early pregnancy. In fact for the first few weeks I went to the extreme of not even acknowledging the pregnancy at all because I was convinced it was too good to be true

It took 4.5years and 3 rounds of IVF and a MC at 8 weeks to get pregnant with this little one, we had convinced ourselves we were just not destined to be parents. Only in the past few weeks have I relaxed when discussing the baby and enjoyed shopping for prams etc…

It's perfectly normal, but I know that doesn't make it bearable.

Every night in the first trimester me and DH would lay in bed and say "one more day" and know that was another big step in moving towards a healthy baby. Thats all any of us can really do, take it one day at a time.

Even at 20 weeks I have days when I panic but he's currently giving me some swift kicks while I surf MN which acts as some form of relief.

Remember, the odds are in your favour! Even at 5 weeks you have more chance of having a healthy baby than you do of anything terrible happening.

[DecaffTastesWeird]

went to the extreme of not even acknowledging the pregnancy at all because I was convinced it was too good to be true

Same here!

I am 27 weeks now and still get irrational moments where I think something awful might happen to the baby. I think it's normal to be anxious. Hope so anyway!

[Roseylee20]

Orchid, please don't worry I have had the same as you. I've had 2 previous mc's so you will always worry, whether you've had a healthy pregnancy inbetween or not. Like another lady said, I also went for an early scan, discovered I was 7+2, and that there was a heartbeat. I burst into tears of happiness! I went for the early scan due to spotting, and turns out I have a hematoma. I am now 9 weeks. Still very wary, although each day is a blessing. There's lots of us on the site with the same worries- your not alone! I wish you all the very best x

[DecaffTastesWeird]

Sorry should have also said - OP, the odds are in your favour and you really don't need to worry. I can definitely sympathise with your being worried even though you know that there is no rational reason to be.

[TinyMonkey]

To those of you still doing tests, please save your money. You can have a mmc and your tests will still show positive, it's not a reliable way of checking that you're still pregnant. It took two weeks for me to get a negative on a pees stick after I'd had an ERPC. There is also the hook effect after a certain point (google it).