Pregnant and living with parents

[kitkat321]

Firstly, apologies for the upcoming rant!

I'm 25 weeks pregnant and due to some poor timing on our part we are in the middle of moving home.

Our new house won't be ready for another couple of months so my parents very kindly offered to let us stay there.

At first it was ok - they were away on holiday a few times in the first couple of months which made it easier and we had our own space but it's starting to get tense and I'm generally stressed and miserable.

Me and my mum don't get on - I'll be honest and say that as a person I don't like her. She's very negative and critical and throughout my childhood never had a nice word to say about me to me but would at the same time brag to her friends about me.

She has some form of OCD and her house is unbelievably clean and nothing is allowed out of place.

When we moved she automatically started doing our washing/ironing/cooking - we didn't expect this and said we were happy to do our own but she insists on doing it but then she holds it over us in a "you better appreciated all I do for you" fashion.

We have 2 rooms to use which are packed with their things so very little space but are expected to keep these immaculately tidy - even though we are paying her rent we don't have our own space and she'll regularly go into our rooms and move things about which really annoys me.

OH says we need to sit down and have a calm chat but I lived with woman for 20 years and between my temper/hormones and her being unreasonable and "it's my way or the high way" stance I don't think we can solve anything.

We've still got another 10 weeks of this at least and I don't know if I can cope much more with the situation and the other unpleasantness that comes with pregnancy. She also seems to think that once we move and baby comes she can set up camp in our new house and to be honest the way I feel right now, if I never saw her again it would be too soon. Sounds harsh but it's how I feel and how I felt when I moved out years ago.

I'm trying to work on OH to see if we can stay with his mum instead - she has loads of room but not sure if she's as keen. Renting is not an option as we can't find any short lets or anywhere that will take pets.

Not sure what the point of this is but I just needed to rant as I feel that living in this environment is not good for me or baby!!!

[Bumpngrind85]

I'm in the same boat! My husband and I relocated from London and my mum kindly agreed for us to stay with her why our purchase goes through. We have taken on a massive renovation project and it's the most stressful thing in the world. We moved into mums at the end of April and we found out I was expecting at the beginning of May! It came as a massive shock and i didn't expect my first pregnancy to be happening whilst i'm living with my mum and dad. Our house isn't even completed yet and with all the renovation work it's looking like May/ June next year at the earliest. I'm due in Jan so i'm going to have to live with them with a new born too. Suprisingly my husband doesn't seem to have a problem with the situation as he knows we are saving money this way but i'm getting more short tempered by the day and don't want to say something I might regret. To make matters worse my father is suffering from vasucular dementia and he puts up a huge fight every day regarding day to day tasks like washing/eating. Its really getting me down and worried it will have a negative effect on my baby. The whole thing is very depressing to watch especially when you are 5 months pregnant with your first child. This is certainly not how I planned for things to pan out. I'm sorry I cant offer a solution for you but it's nice to know you're not alone I guess.

[kitkat321]

I'm so glad it's not just me!!

My OH is also fine with things - he just laughs it off and talks about how much we are saving but I, like you, are getting to the stage where I may say something I regret!

I feel like life is on hold just now and we are just muddling through - I have leaving work after a stressful day and not being able to just relax at home!

[Bumpngrind85]

Well I work from home so I cant even escape in the day time! I could easily polish off a bottle of red to relax but I can't even do that :( I suppose looking on the bright side at least we will save money this way and it will make our own homes that little bit more sacred when we are finally in. Good luck with it all....

[JennyBlueWren]

Just giving sympathy I love my parents but can't stay more than a couple of weeks with them!

[SecretWitch]

Giving much sympathy. Lived with mum for almost a year during divorce from first husband. Very grateful to have accommodation for self and children. Damn near killed each other before year was through.