Sorry in advance if this has been asked previously.
This coming Wednesday I would have been off for 3 weeks.
I always thought a miscarriage was something that just unexpectedly happened one day, you'd be off a week or 2, then go back to work.
Mines been what I think to be quite a long process to what I thought a mc was. We'd be trying for a baby since last summer so we was mega excited when we found out 5 weeks ago.
The start of my time off work 3 weeks ago was due to an emergency scan that showed a weak heartbeat. I was bleeding every time and started with pain, so wanted rest incase that helped.
Beginning of Last week I found out there was no heart beat. The end of last week I went in hospital for the day to be medically managed to induce the mc, which didn't work.
3 days ago I went for another scan which showed I hadn't mc. I had an examination down there to swab for infection due to the bleeding I continued to have had started to smell. They saw the tissue had moved quite down so removed it there and then.
I have fully mc now so could technically go back. Besides starting today with flu like symptoms, I don't feel ready to go back. My boss emailed to check when id be back today as I work in accounts/payroll and it's the end of the tax year (I actually forgot!). I'm not getting pressure but even the thought of going back had me in tears. I can't stop thinking about babies and the fact id be 3 months now, one third of the way. I kinda do feel "ok". I've had depression before and I don't feel like I'm getting back into depression, but don't think I have the head space to think properly, and face everyone. I know I have to go back at some point.
I'm away for a week next weekend so if I go back after that, it'd be April and would by 1 day shy of 5 weeks off.
I'm wondering how long other people have had off?
I work for a small company where no one ever has sick days so I'm very guilty and wary of not wanting to look like I'm taking the mick/advantage. Especially since before all this I was asking for more work and more pay!
Considering it wasn't a "quick" mc physically, does 5 weeks seem too long?
Thanks (sorry for the long post!). Appreciate any feedback.
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How long off work after mc?
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Hannah1086 · 15/03/2014 01:17
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