So after weeks of OH not telling his 2 kids I'm pregnant, he finally did and it all went pear shaped. 15 year old says we've ruined his life and he never wants to see me or baby. 9 year old just not in touch with me any more. Got on great with them both before they found out. OH being very distant, we don't live together, he says he doesn't know how he can split his time between us all. He split from his wife last Jan and we got pregnant very quickly (like within 2 weeks of starting to see each other last Sept.....pretty miraculous, he had a vasectomy that has reversed itself) He never wanted any more kids, I'm 40 in 2 weeks and feel this is my last chance, I love him and want it to work and the thought of doing this alone terrifies me. He says he loves me very much and I believe him, but he basically doesn't want a baby. Well unfortunately we come as a package now.... I wasn't exactly planning for one either, children never featured in my life plan, but there was no way I was terminating, so I went ahead, but I think he feels I didn't involve him in that decision.
Original plan was for him to move in with me sometime soon but now I cant see that happening, he has his kids overnight every other weekend and they basically hate me.
I feel I have no hope for the future, and all I can do is plan for this on my own just in case. But I feel miserable, low and lonely all the time. I feel this poor little baby is just not being celebrated.
So to try and perk myself up I've booked in for a private gender and reassurance scan tomorrow (I'm 17+3) just hoping they can tell! Then maybe I can start to plan forward a bit. 20 week scan is 7th Feb but I'm going insane and just can't wait til then.
Don;t know what advice I want really, just to rant !!
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Partner driving me mad - need to rant!
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mimi74 · 18/01/2014 15:11
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