Worried about reactions to pregnancy

[amroc18]

I'm 9+4 and planning to wait until 12w before telling most people.

However, starting to get really panicked about possible reactions. Parents on both sides know and overjoyed, but worried about rest of friends and family.

DP and I got together in messy circumstances, and due to delays in courts because of staffing issues divorce to exH still not gone through (filed early this year, amicable break-up). Some of our friends have struggled with us getting together before divorce sorted (which i'm not hoping to open a can of worms with with this thread).

It's an accidental pregnancy but we are seeing it as a happy blessing. Not sure how to deal with it if we get negative reactions.

Has anyone had any people react badly to announcement news and how have you dealt with this?

[Sammie101]

Congratulations

I had one of my best friends tell me that me and my boyfriend were "too young, too poor and too immature" to have a baby and that I should have an abortion. This was after I had told her that me and OH were happy about the news. Needless to say she's not a friend anymore.

Don't let anyone else's opinions ruin your happiness because they don't mean a thing, what matters is that you and your partner are happy, and you can start getting excited about the new addition to your family

[tgamble13]

try not to worry about others reactions. as long as u and ur partner are happy sod everyone else if they are proper friends they will do the right thing

[cariadmawr]

Congratulations to you both . As long as both of you are happy sod everyone else you can live without their comments..

[TeaAndANatter]

Congrats on the pregnancy, and try not to anticipate trouble before it finds you! Everyone might be happy for you, or at least well bred enough to not be rude about it to your face. Hoping it goes well for you x x x

[amroc18]

Thanks everyone - feel a bit more confident now xxx

[morgs22]

my in-laws are very religious (catholic) and told me to get an abortion or they'd cut my partner out of their lives for good needless to say they are not going to be involved in our lives but my family are really supportive and my partner could not be more amazing if he tried, don't worry about peoples reactions if they're happy great, if not then screw em

[Bluemonkeyspots]

It's your baby, don't let anyone else put a downer on what is an amazing thing to happen in your life. In 5 years time none of these circumstances will matter, only your lovely little family will.

[katebakes]

Morgs22 - your inlaw's reaction is very uncatholic! My inlaws are super duper catholic and their main concern was that I would please keep the baby (because they weren't sure if I'd want to). Honestly I was so over the moon when I found out I was pregnant that there was NO question. But I'd never met them and they didn't know me. My parents didnt care if I got married or not etc but everyone was thrilled to have a little blessing on the way. We decided to get married when I was 5 months, not for the baby but for us. Something definitely changed during my pregnancy, a love and trust developed that I never though possible with another person.

I wasn't worried about what people would say essentially, but it did upset me a little when people had a good gossip! My dad was very much of the mentality that they can go f* themselves...thanks dad. I think I was mainly worried because deep down I thought people would question my ability to make a good mother. Then nicest things people have said was that I'd make a fab mum and that my DH will make An amazing dad.

Don't let anyone spoil this for you, it really is a blessing.

[Isean]

Hi amroc

I'm in a similar situation to you. DP and I got together in a messy situation (almost immediately after I left my exH) and it's been pretty difficult. It's been 18 months and I'm still trying to get divorced, if only my exH would respond in a productive manner!

I'm 9+4, DP and I have told our immediate families and some close friends, who have all been delighted and very supportive. I'm still very nervous about announcing our news and the reaction it might get from some people (exH included), but I'm trying to keep a positive frame of mind as DP and I are very happy together, the pregnancy was planned and people close to us are supportive. It's hard not to be concerned or affected by people's reactions though.

I lost a number of "friends" over the months and gradually realised, despite how much it hurt, that they were obviously never true friends anyway. As long as you and DP are happy and have support around you, even if it's not from everyone, that's all that matters.

Take care. I hope all goes well for you