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Spending spree what to tell DH!

(31 Posts)
MultipleMama Fri 26-Jul-13 19:46:28

Light hearted post.

Just received the next catalogues. And just bought the whole (and I mean whole) panda (4 pages full) newborn range plus others. To be fair I did alternate in sizes. Spent over £300+... I'm only 20w.

Also bought DS and DD panda onesies...

Do I tell DH that I ordered them ages ago and they've only just come or that I've had them in the cupboard for ages? Or do I hope they come when he's not here and shove them in the cupboard.

Who else has already been spending on their bundle/s?!

April13 Fri 02-Aug-13 15:04:28

lol, I sound like all of your DHs with the spreadsheets etc ;) My DH is clueless when it comes to money, when he saw our gas and electricity bill for the first time he informed me that we should turn the heating off and wear more clothes.....
Must admit though, I have done the whole hanging the newly purchased item up and then exclaiming to DH (when he asks) that ive had it for ages..........

MultipleMama Fri 02-Aug-13 14:31:48

mumoftwoboys Spreadsheets are DH's baby. Everything is neat and calculated haha. I'm lucky that I managed to find work from home. Sorry to hear that you were made redundant but congrats on your PG. I'd love to go to work again. But I hate the thought of someone raising my kids. I'm overprotective at times!

MultipleMama Fri 02-Aug-13 14:26:10

That was said jokingly and in a teasing manner based on my DH's personality towards money. As I said, it's a light hearted post. We talk on a night and he asks what I bought and I tell him. I know full well my son tells DH, he's very talkative and out-going and would never ask my son to lie.

It's a personality thing between DH & my's relationship. Nothing harmful or decitful (can't spell!) about it. smile

CelticPromise Thu 01-Aug-13 15:31:57

mumoftwoboys as it happens I am a SAHM mainly, I do occasional freelance work.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Thu 01-Aug-13 15:29:03

But you were asking if you should tell him the stuff you had ordered had been in the cupboard for ages or that you ordered it a while ago. That's not the truth, is it?

If you tell him the truth then you'll just explain you bought it now confused

MultipleMama Thu 01-Aug-13 15:24:04

I tell him the truth, also and we trust each other. I don't have to tell him what I spend, I don't lie about it either, I usually end up telling him what I've bought anyway. If it's my money, then he doesn't really care. If it's our money we discuss it, also.

mumoftwoboysS Thu 01-Aug-13 15:16:25

Multiple DH here uses a spreadsheet too! And since I don't work I don't have my own bank account so can't just dip in whenever! Have a weekly budget that we stick to so I buy stuff out of that but it means spending little bits here and there rather than all at once. I respect it (grudgingly!) as it keeps our bank a/c healthy- just wish I worked (was made redundant and now pregnant so a job will have to wait till after DC3 is born) so I could justify buying more sometimes!

For those of you that work gobbolino and celtic you're lucky you can spend your own money -and as for both being adults etc- it's just that sometimes one adult thinks something is a necessity whilst the other disagrees lol! grin perhaps it depends how you and your OH are personality wise- me and my DH are quite different so we see things differently but he does trust me to get all the stuff the kids need luckily!

Gobbolinothewitchscat Thu 01-Aug-13 13:10:00

celtic - glad to see I'm not just being PO grin

CelticPromise Thu 01-Aug-13 13:04:31

Me too Gobbolino. DH and I share money and neither of us buys anything that costs over about £30 without discussing it with the other. Luckily we are equally tight frugal!

Gobbolinothewitchscat Thu 01-Aug-13 12:50:49

I just tell DH the truth. We're both adults and trust each other with money so assume that the other is buying things we need

I'm on mat leave and have given up work as expecting DC2. We both, luckily, have I had well paying jobs but I couldn't have given up work if I felt I was going to have to pretend to DH about buying things. My dad treated my mum exactly the same so I just don't have experience if this kind of thing.

I know it's a light hearted thread but I'm a bit hmm about it.

RunningBear78 Thu 01-Aug-13 12:50:10

I've done all my spending sprees on eBay thereby circumventing awkward conversations as I can automatically say I've saved LOADS even though I have also obviously spent loads grin

I have just realised I did slightly not tell the whole truth about two cute polar bear hooded towels that were stupid expensive, but they were in the sale, does that count?

I have also been trawling the house for things to sell on eBay (which seems to be equally addictive) to make up for spending sprees!

You can promise to sell it all after you've used it to make some money back?

MultipleMama Thu 01-Aug-13 12:44:19

Franykins - Same here. I've always been working and being independent. I love when he wants to spoil me etc as I try to spoil him too but I refuse to let him pay all the bills and DC. I have 2 jobs that I do from home with no set hours and it pays enough for my half of the bills & spree money. Numbers calm DH so if his practical thinking works for him then I'm not complaining. I just hate when people assume he's "controlling" me over it haha.

Franykins Thu 01-Aug-13 09:39:33

MultipleMama your probably right. As long as I put my half (for now) into the joint account for bills and things the rest of my money is mine to do I want with, and same for him. And just like your DH my DP buys for his baby (car) and I buy what I want too. It works smile I'm used to being independent so although he earns quite a bit more than me I insist on paying half the bills - even for his boys. He hates that I do that but I have always said to him look once we have kids that will change, I will be on lower maternity pay and then working part time (I hope) so I won't be able to pay half and half. That he was happy with (although I know I will find it hard not paying half but I just won't be able to afford to)

Defo helps for them to be practical I think smile

MultipleMama Wed 31-Jul-13 23:13:44

Franykins - It might be a man thing, his dad and my dad are the same. Very practical but luckily DH isn't too strict! I think DH has gotten more practical with each child. These twins are #5 & #6 and can afford them because of DH's money wisdom!

robothamster Link?

RobotHamster Wed 31-Jul-13 16:52:22

Link please

Franykins Wed 31-Jul-13 16:51:18

DP got the buggy and a few other bits. So with the clothes I've bought and the carry cots for the buggy we've spent about the same so far. He is defo more practical about it all than me though (is that a man thing or because he already has 2 DS's whereas these are my first?) By they time the arrive I think we will have spent the same as each other, just he will be spending it on the big stuff, car seats, cots, matrasses etc and I will be getting all the clothes etc.

MultipleMama Wed 31-Jul-13 16:49:29

Purr - DH likes to note everything, no expense is unaccounted for. If we want something expensive we sell stuff we don't need to pay for it. We did it when buying the Donkey. However, he's fine at spending for nursery furniture etc and toys for the kids. He's... sensible and when you look at the big picture we've saved a load of money by it.

DH would be happy to put new arrival in the dc's hand me downs and we are for the most part, the newborn stuff ans gdiapers anyway but I want them to have new stuff too.

I told him about the spending and he asked if I could afford it. I said yes. He sighed with a smirk and wrote it down. DH handles my spreadsheet (i.e what I spend, incoming and outcomings, what needs to be left), I rarely hide spending from him, he finds out eventually haha.

DH buys for his baby (his bike), I buy what I want haha.

purrpurr Wed 31-Jul-13 16:27:02

Mama I got everything (inc cot) for my dd from my personal savings, around a grand in total, as my DH had us on a tight leash also even though I earned the same as him, just was proper miserly about ANY spending for dd, didn't see the point, didn't see why we needed to stockpile wipes when they were on offer or get a few different brands of nappies or cotton wool and why do we need sleepsuits and what's a vest, why do we need them, blah blah, what do you mean, we need bedding, blah blah... I called him The Joy Stealer until the day my dd arrived. Now he is much much less mean with money and pays for everything so it should even out.

Still a pain though. There should be pleasure in shopping for your new arrival surely? Bah.

Franykins Wed 31-Jul-13 15:57:16

Oh meant to say he knows just what i'm like with shopping so no point in hiding any of it lol.

Franykins Wed 31-Jul-13 15:56:51

I went to the recent next sale with my sister, at 5 in the morning! Mad, yes. Spent £200, and that was with putting half of it back.

When I got home I proudly showed DP everything, having woken him up to do so (aren't I kind smile) He aske dhow much it was and I told him. First his response was f**** hell! but then I pointed out that we had next quality at primark prices, and to be fair I got about 72 bits of clothing smile He then said oh that's ok then, but we both agree with twins on the way we still don't have enough as I got a range of sizes. Had he said I'd spent too much I would have pointed out that I bought it all out of my money so it doesn't make a jot of difference to him smile win win really.

MultipleMama Wed 31-Jul-13 15:11:04

mumof and ahoy DH is in finance and has us on leash when it comes to spending, he has spreadsheets and everything, but I bought this out of my account not our joint one. I can't spend over £200 in the joint account without the bank phoning and asking if it's an "authorized transaction"... Damn DH Haha.

purr Those were my thoughts exactly and buy the time I had finished...

purrpurr Tue 30-Jul-13 19:55:15

Oh the panda stuff is so gorgeous! I am sooo tempted to get some things for our DD even though she reeeeally doesn't need them.

Maybe just a couple of things.

No one has to know...

mumoftwoboysS Tue 30-Jul-13 19:49:07

Ahoy me too!! a DH who budgets for everything means no sprees for me sad lol!

AhoyAhoy Tue 30-Jul-13 16:12:24

Wow, wish I could get away with spending £300 and the OH not notice the gaping hole in the bank balance!

im with mumoftwo.
I bring them out gradually and say 'oh that? bought it in the sale ages ago! was a bargain!'
lol.

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