5 weeks pregnant following a miscarriage and so worried!

[telbel]

my dh and i just found out we are 5 weeks pregnant and im worrying my self stupid. 6 months a go I out of the blue started bleeding and had a miscarriage att 10 weeks although at the scan found out the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks....Im so happy to be pregnant this time round as we have been trying for a while but so worried...my biggest fear is that I will think Im going along fine and get to the scan to be told that the baby is no more and passed away weeks before! the baby last time had stopped growing at 6 weeks but it had been another 4 weeks after that of lovely pregnant bliss until I found out it was no more! and thats when the bleeding started! im dont have any bleeding or cramps but dont have any pregnancy signs either and not due for a scan for weeks! and to scared to try and book an early scan as I dont want to get too excited too soon for it all to end in heartbreak again. 12 weeks is so far away! i want to stop worrying and enjoy this like I did my successful first pregnancy 3 years ago but Im freaking out :(

[NotSoSuper]

Hi telbel.
I am in a similar position. I had a missed miscarriage in March. Baby had stopped growing at 10 weeks and we found out at the 12 week scan. I'm now 6 weeks pregnant and absolutely terrified of the same thing happening again. Some days I feel really positive about this pregnancy and other days I'm a paranoid mess as like you I've not really had any symptoms. I've got midwife app on Tuesday so hoping to get for an early scan to see how things are going but we'll see.
Sorry I don't have any useful advice, just wanted you to know your not alone x

[thehairybabysmum]

I remember having exactly the same worries when I got pg 6 weeks after my miscarriage...my lovely 'baby' is nearly 6 now.

Fingers crossed you have the same outcome. It is totally natural to worry, but ultimately your thoughts won't impact on the pregnancy, if its meant to be and all that.

[xmarksaspot]

Me to had a very similar miscarriage at 11 weeks my next pregnancy was smooth and he is 6 1/2 and should be in bed his little brother is asleep already

Relax and I am really hopeful it will be fine for you good luck

I did have a 9 week scan which helped me

[MrsSiba]

Xmarksaspot ...what did you see at the 9 wk scan ? I'm weighing up whether we should go for an early scan but not sure if it's too early to see anything?? I'm in a similar position to op and also trying not to worry

[telbel]

Thanks so so much, what a lovely bunch of girls you are! Im so thankful for all your replies, you have really helped me and made me feel better, I have never posted on anything like this before and have been struggling so much, I dont want to worry my other half about it and keep going on about it, as lovely as he is I dotn think he will every understand and just tells me to chill out! i think he secretly is as worried as me, and dont want to come across morbid to friends and family who dont reallyl know what to say to me so its been a real comfort to know that there are people out there who are and have been in the same situation and it has all had a happy ending!!! I think Im goingm to do what Xmarksthespot suggested and try and hang in there until im about 9 weeks and get an early scan then even as hideously scary as that idea is!!!! If I can just get to that point with out worrying myself stupid and then its just another 3 weeks from there til the 12 week 'safe time' at which point I think I will feel much better! THanks so much xxxx

[xmarksaspot]

saw a heartbeat !! it was at our early pregnancy unit (ask your midwife i didn't pay for that one!!)

then had nucal scan at 11 weeks and the normal 12 scan at the time nucak was not included in our 12 week scan in hertfordshire

i then decided to relax and enjoy

good luck hope all is well xx

[katrinaxx]

hi ive had seven miscarriages and im now pregnant again i had a scan at seven and a half weeks and I seen the heartbeat then I also had one at ten weeks and 13 weeks im now 14 weeks there is hope for all of us you just have to stay positive I woukd book an early scan if I was you good luck hope all is well for you xx

[Rockchick1984]

Tel similar situation here - had early scan at 8 weeks and all was perfect then at 12 week scan found out baby had died at 8.5 weeks. Devastating, but I'm now 5+4 with another baby and trying desperately to stay positive! There's a TTC after miscarriage thread and all the other posters are lovely, I'm also on the March 14 antenatal thread as I want to be happy about this pregnancy and try to stay positive. Still not decided about an early scan so will see how I feel in a week or two. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

[williwonti]

me too! I found out this week so I guess I am nearly 5 weeks pregnant. I had a MC in March (started in mid Feb) and I am terrified. I don't know what to do for the best. I am so happy but dont want to get too excited. This means I end up trying to forget about it, can only imagine it will get worse. I believe in positive thinking but so difficult.

[CamomileHoneyVanilla]

Me too. Mc in Jan/Feb time. Just got my bfp this week so about 4+2 ish. Feels very different from last time. Trying to resist getting too excited but that feels a bit of a shame. Have booked loads of social occasions in an attempt to distract though.

[Beamur]

I had a mc similar timings to yours - and like a couple of the other ladies on this thread my next pregnancy is now 6 and (hopefully) asleep in bed now.
Fingers and toes crossed that all goes well for you this time.
I had an early scan too which was reassuring.

[MoodyDidIt]

aww op

i had a MMC a few months ago at 12 weeks and was devastating :( the worst thing was thinking i was stil pg when had lost the babies at 6 weeks (mine was twins)

AFAIK you should be offered early scans because of what happened last time

[telbel]

I think thats a good idea to join the March 14 thread! trying the whole positive thinking thing as much as possible!!! Will also look at joining the TTC after miscarriage thread too, I have found the support really helpful, its so nice to know we are all in this together and none of us are alone!!! Feel a bit more positive today, each day is different, desperately want to enjoy it but just cant help but want to get the next 6 weeks out the way successfully and crap myself everytime I go to the toilet, half not wanting to look! , Thanks again everyone. Big hugs and luck to you all mwah xx

[telbel]

Hi all...sad news, been feeling really positive and very pregnant, getting bigger a bit and my boobs have been so sore, been taking my pregnacare and looking to to future...Last week I had an early scan it showed a pregnancy but they couldn't see a baby or a heartbeat yet but said I could have had my dates wrong and to come back this week as it may have been too early to see the baby. Went back today for another scan to be told although my uterus has grown considerably..there is no baby in there and I will miscarry..........feel so disappointed as my hub and I had been so positive and because I had felt so pregnant we were looking to the future...now Im in that terrible place again, no bleeding and just waiting.....they have said I can take tablets to bring on the miscarriage, have a D and C or leave my body to do it naturally which is what I did last time 6 months ago and to be honest was the most harrowing awful 2 weeks of my life............ I know this is a bit morbid butI wanted to keep you updated, see if any of you have any information re d and c's or the miscarriage tablets and say thanks for the support a couple of weeks ago xxxx

[ShoeWhore]

Oh telbel I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. Be kind to yourself, hope you are able to take some time to recover emotionally and physically.

I also had two miscarriages 10 years ago and remember what an awful time it was.

Take care xx

[bellerous]

Telbel I am so sorry to hear your news. I was reading through the posts hoping to read that everything was ok for you.

I can only imagine how you must feel and I hope you are able to take some time to feel better. I really hope that things work out for you.xxx

[WhatWillSantaBring]

Telbel,

Really sorry to hear that. I had a similar experience - two mcs about five months apart (having had one sucessful pregnancy). I would always opt for the D&C - there is one day of utter blackness, but then its over and you get to start afresh. I've also heard (unconfirmed) reports that because your uterus has been basically cleaned, some women conceive more easily immediately afterwards. I don't know how true that is, but it was enough for me.

Wishing you all the best - look after yourself and take time to grieve, but stay positive for the future. Two mcs hardly change your chances of a sucessful pregnancy, so hang on in there, your time will come soon. xxx

[telbel]

Thanks so much everyone xxx

[Rockchick1984]

Tel I'm so sorry to hear this

Personally I went for a D&C after having MMC diagnosed - I just wanted it to be over. It was quick (knocked out for about 30 mins) no pain on the day and only very mild period pains the following day. It also meant they could test the tissue to check that there wasn't anything that had caused the miscarriage, and I was told that if I didn't hear anything then to assume all was fine and it was just sadly one of those things. My period returned a month or so later, and I conceived again the following month.