I am just into my 2nd trimester with DC2 this is my partners first, we have been together a year and a half, live together and use to get on very well.
When we found out I was pregnant my DP made it very clear he didn't want to carry on with the pregnancy, we argued loads about it and in the end I took it upon myself to not abort the baby, I told him he can either stay with me and support my decision or leave, it sounds selfish, but to me I was already in love with my baby.... I have previously had an abortion and I have never hated myself so much, I regret it and always will therefore i just couldn't do it. He said he would stick by me and our baby. Although being happy about the pregnancy was hard around him at our 12week scan he seemed to change he was happy and started talking abou the baby more... Now everytimw we argue or get in a disagreement or drunk he always throws in my face how he didn't want this baby and I'm making him have it, I'm making him grow up, he's not ready... He's only staying with me for the baby etc i feel like he is treating me badly all the time through resentment, through me "making" him have this baby... And I feel like I'm getting punished, he says im stopping him from doing what he wants, like going on boys drunken holidays etc... I'm upset and angry all the time, I'm hormonal and I just don't know which way to turn, everytime we fight he's leaving me and it seems that we argue a lot because of it, I don't know how to resolve this situation... I love this baby and I love my partner, I don't want to be a single mum to two kids
I don't want to be judged, I just want some reassurance and advice... How to approach the situation without fighting again, can I add, when he's sober or not arguing he takes what he has said back and tells me he only said the things through anger, this I disbelieve
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He hates me for having this DC :(
Whatyousaying · 05/05/2013 12:19
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