Anyone really stuggle with post preg weight first time and find easier the second?

[Rororowmeboat]

I'm 10 weeks pregnant and really worried about the post pregnancy baby weight. I really struggled first time to lose anything, everyone told me it would drop off if I was breastfeeding and I could eat anything, such lies - breastfeeding didn't make a jot of difference. Ds was 16 months when I got pregnant and I am still about 2kg heavier now than I was the first time.

I found it really difficult and upsetting trying to lose the weight (I was always a size 8 pre baby) and had never really struggled with weight before. I've just had a friend have a gorgeous little girl and she lost the weight in 6 fricking days . . . I'm so jealous it is beyond belief.

I just makes me wonder maybe if some people are just genetically programmed to lose the weight quicker?

I don't have great will power and if I needed to lose weight pre children I would just do shed loads of exercise rather than watch what I eat but it is so difficult to do exercise when you have got a baby in tow (never mind two!).

To compound the situation I have had quite bad nausea which makes me not want to eat in the mornings so I then completely pig out at lunch time. Must stop eating - but I'm so hungry

Anyway sorry for the rant but just wondering if anyone else really struggled to lose the baby weight first time but found it easier with the second? Give me hope

[MoodyDidIt]

i do think some people are genetically blessed and lose it super quick

am very newly pregnant myself with DC3 and tbh always struggle with my changing body when i am pg

so i know how you feel., and congrats on the pregnancy

[dinkystinky]

I found it hard to lose weight after ds1 - but was living on takeouts and rice pudding so no surprise. With ds2 I ate much healthier and lost all the pregnancy weight by the time he was 6 months - walking everywhere, working out, drinking lots of water, lots of fruit and veg in diet and avoiding cakes biscuits and chocolate.

[dinkystinky]

PS gained 3 and a half stone in both pregnancies - now pregnant again and already gained 2 stone so looks like I am on track for at least 3 and a half stone gain again....

[ShowOfHands]

First time round it was bloody awful. I was depressed and couldn't lose weight and even if I tried everything, nothing happened. BF made my weight stay exactly the same. I didn't get rid of the last half stone until I stopped.

When I got pg with dc2, I was resigned to the same story. I had another emcs, bf again and expected to be a couple of sizes bigger until I stopped. Nope. The weight melted away. By 12 weeks in, I was smaller than pre-pregnancy. DS is 18mo old now and I'm slimmer and fitter than I've ever been. No diets, plenty of exercise though and it's been ridiculously easy.

[MoodyDidIt]

wow SOH am

thats brilliant, well done

with DC1, i was a bit depressed TBH and in a bad relationship, pg was not planned etc and very stressful time. so i ate for england basically through depression and also - wrongly - assuming i could eat for two. so i went from a thin 8stone 5 foot 3 ish to a bowling ball shaped 12 stone really not good on my short arse frame lol

although cos i was young it fell off quick but while i was pg hated being and feeling so big and uncomfortable

with DC2 i was in a new great relationship and she was planned. i ate more carefully, exercised and only gained about 17lbs i think. i was skinny and had a tiny bump. but tbh i got a bit carried with it as i ended up having to have a growth scan at 32 weeks as i was only measuring about 17 weeks :(

so am going to try and find a happy medium this time! am not gonna obsess about what i am eating but at the same time i don't want to get too massive

i really do think in a lot of ways the media is to blame cos its so obsessed with celeb mums and how big or small they are, both after and during pg.

[Rororowmeboat]

SoH - so glad you had an easier time of it second time round.

I'm going to try and limit the chrisps , chocolate and cake I eat (although I love them all!) and try to do a bit more exercise. At least I've got that memory of feeling miserable and fat at about 16 weeks post baby to spur me on a bit more this time.

[Bramshott]

First time round with DD1 it took me a year (and a bout of gastroenteritis) to lose the baby weight. With DD2 it literally dropped off and by the time she was 4 months I weighed 7 1/2 stone (I don't now - ha!). Wierd.

[CareerGirl01]

With DD1 I put on 4 stone - was skinny when I got pg but still! Took five months to go - about the time it took to pile on; i went on to lose even more and lThis time round I've kept active, ate more healthily and am on course to put 2 and a half

[CareerGirl01]

stone (iPhone!!). I just think you are less panicky second pregnancy about having to eat - and your body has done it before.

[ShowOfHands]

I think second time round there were lots of things different to first time round. I wasn't depressed so wasn't sitting/eating/crying so much. And because I'd done it before and had another child to be getting on with- including a school run- I was so so so much busier. I also knew that being overweight after having dd had contributed to my unhappiness so from the beginning I just included gentle exercise in my day, building it up to proper exercise again and it helped my mental health as well as my weight.

But really being mentally well was the key. I probably wouldn't have even minded it taking that bit longer second time round as I felt like me anyway. First time round I felt so altered. Everything felt different so looking so different just compounded an existing fragility iyswim.

[MoodyDidIt]

yeah same here show of hands

also, DC1's dad was clearly repulsed by my changing body. he wouldn't even touch my bump :( i felt disgusting

but dc2's dad seemed to find me really sexy and he was so adoring of me for carrying his baby (sorry for soppiness) so that helped

and same dad for dc3 (now he is DH) as well so am hoping he will be the same this time :)

i do think how our partners are with us affects our body image too x