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Anyone else under 12 weeks pregnant and not told work/ friends etc yet?

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LoveYouForeverMyBaby Mon 10-Dec-12 21:39:30

Found out we were expecting #2 on Saturday, my guess is I'm 4/5 weeks...docs appointment is a week away on Monday.

Anyone else nervous but excited and under 12 weeks?

PatButchersEarring - congrats! I remember when I found out in 2009 it was 23rd December and the idea that I might be pg (cos I wasn't ttc) just kind of crept up on me and I knew I had an old test in the bathroom - meanwhile DH was out at Tesco buying OUR christmas booze!! Oh well, it'll do for the christening party wink

yellow - good luck with your managers

MulledWineAndScully Thu 13-Dec-12 16:29:57

Congratulations all.
I'm 11w but was showing at 6. A couple of people have guessed because of that but I haven't told the world.
I wanted to give the scan picture to my Mum and MIL with their Xmas present but my scan is in the new year.

So they will just have to believe me and look at my stomach if they don't which is all the evidence needed really

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Thu 13-Dec-12 18:52:38

yellow too bad to your managers if they dont like it, you and your babys health is more important. Good luck with the response.

Still completly symptomless, think I'm 4w+5d. Petrified of a mmc. Feels nothing like last pg.

PatButchersEarring Thu 13-Dec-12 19:19:53

Littlemiss Thanks for congrats. I think I'm still a bit in shock tbh, but slowly coming round to the idea of a teetotal(ish!) Xmas...

LoveYou If it's any consolation, my first pregnancy was totally symptomless (apart from missed periods and getting chubby!). I also had light bleeding on and off for the first 10 weeks or so. I was convinced I was going to miscarry at any moment. It was fine. DD is now 3.5 and the biggest madam I have ever met

Ryuk Thu 13-Dec-12 19:59:16

Just had two BFPs yesterday. I only tested as a formality, as I was feeling weird, kept having cramps and my period was late - but tbh I thought it was stress! No idea how far along I am as I genuinely can't remember whether I had a period in November or not, it was a pretty busy month. Still kind of in shock. :S

SuchFunSuchFun Thu 13-Dec-12 20:27:10

PatButchersEarrings, thank you for your post, I am 4-5 weeks and been bleeding on and off for over a week now. I have had 2 blood tests this week to compare HCG levels to see if they are going up, and I find out tomorrow, I am so scared, it is reassuring to know that you had bleeding and everything is fine. My boobs were huge in my first and I felt very slightly sick for almost exactly 12 weeks, in fact that is why I first did the test, I wasn't even late at that point, I've had none of that this time.

SuchFunSuchFun Thu 13-Dec-12 20:27:42

Woah, and breathe!! Sorry.

Congrats all.

McBobby Thu 13-Dec-12 20:30:19

Got a definite positive after a few days of wondering about the faintest of lines at the weekend. Started feeling a bit bloated and sickly yesterday. No idea when I'm telling people. Was planning to tell parentals today but didn't! Don't know why...!

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Thu 13-Dec-12 20:33:21

pat thank you so much.

PatButchersEarring Thu 13-Dec-12 21:00:21

such fun and loveyou

You're welcome. I wouldn't want anyone to go through the (what thankfully turned out to be totally unnecessary) worry that I went through.

Looking back, I honestly think I was of greater risk of mc through the stress of worrying about it than anything else. The GP did nothing to allay my fears either- in fact, I wasn't concerned about it until I saw her. Her reaction to the bleeding was so totally OTT it was unreal.

In fact, I think it's something like a third of pregnancies have light (and sometimes more) bleeding at some point. An ex colleague of mine even passed an entire blod clot when 4 months pregnant with her (now 20 year old) son.

MySonIsMyWorld Thu 13-Dec-12 21:07:34

Congrats all who are expecting!!

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Thu 13-Dec-12 21:58:48

I'm in 2 minds about getting an early pg scan....what's everyone's thoughts? Shall I just wait til 12 weeks?

OvenReady Thu 13-Dec-12 22:12:59

I might be out, after all this.

Five weeks pg and started bleeding today. Had a missed mc in July - terrified now. My doc would not authorise HCG bloods (why why why???) and told me to wait till week 7 then I "might" get a scan.

I'm in hell right now.

Have told my headteacher - she knows about July mc - and I'm staying home from school to rest tomorrow. My DH is going to tell my parents tomorrow - I just don't know how I can go on with my daily life when I might be losing this pregnancy.

I have a private scan booked for end of week 7 but might call them tomorrow and see what they can advise. Stupid NHS, they don't want to help - despite the new NICE guidelines.

I can kiss a nice Christmas good riddance.
sad

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Fri 14-Dec-12 06:14:12

oven how are you today? Has the bleeding stopped? I know its impossible to do but try not to panic it might not be a mc, there are lots of explanations for bleeds in pregnancy. Good luck!

MulledWineAndScully Fri 14-Dec-12 10:18:33

Hope you are ok Oven

Clca Fri 14-Dec-12 11:32:57

Really hope you're ok oven. X

OvenReady Fri 14-Dec-12 12:08:24

Sorry to sabotage a lovely thread.

Bleeding is heavier today. Went to see my doc and insisted on HCG bloods being done - I cannot face Christmas with this misery hanging over me. Have another blood test booked for Monday to see what HCG levels are doing.

It would be foolish to get my hopes up, so I'm trying to let it go for now. But the bleeding is more than during my periods, I can't believe I am NOT miscarrying.

A long weekend ahead...

Congrats to everyone here smile

I didn't tell most people until I was 20 weeks, as I was waiting for test results. Family I told within a few days of finding out.

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Fri 14-Dec-12 13:37:12

I am so sorry tpo hear you are going through this oven. I think it's probably best to prepare yourself for the worst mentally, but also it's very important not to lose hope completely. There are many people who have bleeds, even very heavy bleeds that go on to have perfect healthy babies.

Are you cramping with the bleeding? is the blood bright red or dark? good luck and we're here for you.

Boosiehs Sat 15-Dec-12 23:12:11

I've just got a positive test today for first pg. scary and exciting. Told a friend who knew I was late and trying. Will tell mum tomorrow but not anyone else until after Christmas. However i am going on holiday over NY with friends who are big drinkers so it's going to be pretty obvious when I don't drink!

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Sat 15-Dec-12 23:51:44

How have you been oven?

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Sat 15-Dec-12 23:52:58

Congratulations boosiehs!

OvenReady Sun 16-Dec-12 14:43:46

Hi LoveYou...

It's certainly over. Bleeding continued last night and I passed the indicative matter (sorry ladies if tmi). So at least I know now. Will cancel the scan that is booked.

At least I know I can have a drink, eat brie and pate over Christmas without doing any harm. I'll get New year out of the way, and then think about trying again. I'm boosted by the over 40's thread I found on here - lots of old ladies giving it a go, so I might give it some thought.

Good luck to all of you ladies pg - exciting times ahead. I have a son, aged 2, and he is my world. When it does happen it's like a gift from God, truly.

Take care ladies.
thanks
xxx

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Sun 16-Dec-12 18:49:26

oven I am truely so sorry to hear this. I really hope you feel better soon, rest up and enjoy your ds over xmas. Once you're ready to ttc again I wish you all the best of luck.

Congratulations guys!
Newbie here. Just found out yesterday I'm pregnant, 3w6d. Complete surprise and still hasn't really sunk in! So exciting though. This is our first. We haven't sold anyone yet and going to wait until after the 12 weeks to tell work and colleagues. I will be 5 weeks pregnant on Xmas day and considering telling my mum and sister then as we are spending Xmas with them. I am so nervous about telling them and oh's parents! I keep thinking they will be disappointed in us for some reason. Although we are both 24 and have been together for 6 1/2 years, living together for the past 3 years. Is it normal to be this nervous?! And do you think it's too soon to tell parents? We don't want to tell friends/colleagues until my h later on but I don't think I can keep it in when I'm around my mum and sis!
I guess I'm just petrified of something going wrong like a miscarriage sad
Do u think we should tell them at Xmas?
Hope your all well and i am excited start my pregnancy journey with you all smile xxx

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