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6 weeks and panicking

(17 Posts)
Kay03 Mon 26-Nov-12 19:08:55

I found out I was pregnant last wed (planned!) and was elated the first day. Since then I have been having panick attacks and am so scared about change. I can't stop crying and hate feeling this way. My husband is so so supportive but I can't shake it. Please help!

Casmama Mon 26-Nov-12 19:12:14

I think a lot of people feel like this, I know I did and my ds was planned too. It will pass though. I don't imagine that you woke up one day and said let's make a baby and it happened immediately- you planned it. It's just now it seems like there is no going back. You will get used to the idea again and go back to being elated and excitied just go easy on yourself and allow your husband to support you.

Ellypoo Mon 26-Nov-12 19:12:33

That's totally normal - even when babies are planned and very much wanted, virtually everyone I know has panicked at least a little bit when they've found out that they are pg, it means it's real, it's actually going to happen, and that combined with hormones is bound to make you stress out about it!! Give it chance to sink in, you'll be fine smile

cupcake78 Mon 26-Nov-12 19:15:50

It's extremely normal! I'm on preg no 4 have 1 dc and this baby was so extremely planned. I panicked till the sickness took over and I am now too ill to care but much more relaxed about the whole experience grin.

Share your fears with your family and friends!

shineypeacock Mon 26-Nov-12 19:18:53

I know exactly how you feel, am approx 5 weeks with No 1 and im a mess, doesnt help that i might be out of work by Christmas. Im just so worried that we wint be able to afford everything we need and all the bills etc, even if i was to get another job soon, i wouldnt get much maternity pay.

Im going from hapiness about being pregnant, to feeling scared about everything! Hope its just hormones.

We've got to keep telling ourselves that we will be ok xx

Kay03 Mon 26-Nov-12 19:30:37

Obviously not glad you're feeling the same but it's nice to know I'm not alone. My main panick seems to be how it will affect my relationship as am so happy with my husband (why we wanted to start a family-share the love) and I'm scared it won't be the same. My whole life will be different and I can't control it. I thin you're right, positivity is the key.

Kay03 Mon 26-Nov-12 19:31:34

Thanks for all the responses. It's nice to know people out there are so supportive.

kimcarl1988 Mon 26-Nov-12 20:00:32

im having my third and im scared dont push your husband away. im due in two weeks and i cry every day your body is changing so much. My fiance has been a rock to me chin up and everything will be fine. If your still worried talk to your midwife or doctor. [ smile ]

Kay03 Mon 26-Nov-12 20:02:01

I literally feel like I can't do it. I feel so panicky I don't know what to do .

FernandoIsFaster Mon 26-Nov-12 20:08:29

Repeat after me: You. Will. Be. Fine.

I felt exactly the same way. We tried for 9 months to get pregnant and I was desperate for a baby. 2 days after I got bfp I suddenly became terrified that I was trapped and couldn't undo this enormous life changing decision. Trust me, in a few weeks, especially when you see the scan and your bump grows, you will get really excited and the panic will subside if not disappear completely.

You are totally normal, I promise and no doubt in a 8 months time as you cuddle your little squashy bundle you will think its the best thing that ever happened to you.

Kay03 Mon 26-Nov-12 21:14:52

Thank you. I am trying to talk myself round. I just don't feel like I'm in my own head (?!) at the moment. Really appreciate your kind words. Think I just need to sleep lol x

efme Mon 26-Nov-12 21:34:26

I have been going through the same thing and I think that everyone's advice on here is really good. Trying to break it down into rational things you are worried about might help, because it can easily spiral out of control and then you start worrying about lots of irrational things too. Is there anyone you can talk to?

Also, make sure you don't feel guilty for being scared. It's a journey that you, your husband and your body are going through, and whatever happens in the future, you'll be able to deal with it. It sounds like part of what makes your relationship so good is the fact that you want to have a family together, and nothing that is worthwhile is ever easy! So try to relax into the ride and let yourself feel all the things you will feel.

Kay03 Mon 26-Nov-12 21:41:49

It is really encouraging talking to people on here. I have got such a good net work of friends and family but as I'm so early on, I haven't t

Kay03 Mon 26-Nov-12 21:43:28

Told anyone yet. I feel like I need to get my head round it before we tell anyone else. Everything that's being said is right and I truely appreciate all that's been said. I will more than likey be on here frequently and hope all that have posted will keep in touch. Thank you x

LuckyOwl28 Mon 26-Nov-12 21:46:47

Remember your hormones will be heightening any feelings you have too! From 4-10 weeks I was extremely emotional and over tired and often had depressing thoughts (usually on a Fri when I collapsed in a heap in the door soon as I finished work). I still have the same concerns and worries about work, money etc as I did then but it doesn't seem half as bad now! Give yourself a break, have a cry and get plenty of rest xx

RubyrooUK Mon 26-Nov-12 21:48:21

Don't beat yourself up about panicking.

I am pregnant with DS2. Totally planned and very happy, especially after some miscarriages.

So bear in mind how mad it sounds when I tell you that for the first three months I fought heavy sickness to go out with friends till 2-3am. When I am exhausted working full time in a busy job with a toddler. What was I thinking?

I suddenly had this massive panic for weeks that having a second child would destroy my life. It was 18mo before DS slept and I bf for 16 months all night so it was pretty rubbish for my social life.

So in my panic I decided to ignore being pregnant and go out all night. I didn't drink or anything, but honestly, was this a same reaction for a mother of one to a planned pregnancy?

I'm now 24 weeks and little milestones along the way (scans etc) have reminded me of how exciting being a parent is. And so now I am not really panicking.

Give yourself a chance to have a panic about how life will change. Then you can embrace it later on.

RubyrooUK Mon 26-Nov-12 21:49:29

sane reaction - not same. Sorry, stupid typing.....

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