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"Push present"

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My preggy-friend asked me the other day what I was getting for my "Push Present"... I had no idea what she meant. She is having her third child and informed me that her husband had taken her to Hatton Gardens to buy an eternity ring for the "completion of their family"... how lovely, lucky her! I'm due to have my sixth (and last) child and as far as I'm aware no diamonds are coming my way!! Are Push Present normal??? Should I be upset?

18wksplus Mon 22-Oct-12 17:27:30

It's an American term. We've moved to the US where #2 will be born (#1 born in the UK), so I've told DH if he expects a #3 I want something!! Just trying to assimilate ;)

nickeldaisical Mon 22-Oct-12 17:27:39

is that because she gave birth in her old one?
wink

rrreow Tue 23-Oct-12 13:07:59

nickeldaisical grin

lolajane2009 Sun 28-Oct-12 01:01:42

I got a hell of a lot of gas and air (was upset to give that up) and the son I tried 8 years for.

Onemoreforgoodmeasure Sun 28-Oct-12 07:31:35

OP's is just a posher version of the traditional flowers. I think it's lovely some OH's turn it into something more of a keepsake, like rings at weddings, special gifts at certain birthdays. It is an important family event and we often mark these in different ways, why not? Love the idea of a jam doghnut... must get a doughnut now!

allchik Sun 28-Oct-12 09:04:14

I think some people r talking as though if a man gets u a pressy it means he doesnt view the child as a gift or is going to be shit round the house!?Bit harsh!
Would never call it or ask for a push present but imagine my (lovely,excited,unshowy)hub prob will get me something,dnt see how marking the birth of a child with a gift is wrong?A nice bunch of flowers,piece of unexpensive jewelry would be lovely if he does,but wnt be bothered if he doesnt. He got me a present when I had a mc in feb,when we could of said the 'present' was my health (traumatic hospital stay) whats the biggy?

EggsMichelle Sun 28-Oct-12 11:00:08

I'm not expecting a present, my DH couldn't organise that, but he is having a bracelet he bought me engraved with the DOB. I don't really think I need a prize from him for successfully giving birth!

skandi1 Sun 28-Oct-12 11:33:20

They were not "push presents" as I had two cs so technically no pushing involved (other than pushing DDs head back up pre first emcs). DH bough a beautiful Georg Jensen diamond Fusion ring the first time. Not immediately though about 4 months after DD was born. For DS birth, he bought a stunning pair of Georg Jensen Cascade diamond earrings to match the necklace he gave me on our wedding day.

They were not expected but both very generous and very much appreciated by me after two tough surgical births and a tough recovery the first time around

Vagazzled Sun 28-Oct-12 11:40:38

Eternity rings? Diamonds?
I got [flowers] sore boobs and a VERY gorgeous dd grin

LollopingLil Sun 28-Oct-12 11:49:17

Never heard this term, certainly never expected anything. But DH bought me a beautiful necklace after DS was born. I'm 22 weeks with DS2 at the moment and the other day he asked out of nowhere whether I'd like a new iPad when he arrives! I'm hardly going to say no! Plus DH is not known for his romantic gestures (cards tend to involve a lot of farting), so I have been incredibly touched by these thoughts. Very lovely of him.

SarahC1985 Sun 11-Nov-12 16:22:36

I only recently heard of this but when I had my last baby, a few friends bought the baby stuff but got me a few things also and it made my day! I got some nice bath sets and a new dress, just in appreciation of what I had done and it was nice to be appreciated! So I say, let people have their push presents, it's tough being pregnant for 9months and going through labour, coupled with after pains, no sleep etc. Of course having a baby who is healthy and happy is the real gift but isnt it nice to be appreciated? This time, I have a chilled bottle of Moet and Chandon sitting in the fridge, which I bought for myself and can't wait to pop open!

specialknickers Sun 11-Nov-12 17:12:35

My DH made me an amazing hamper with all the banned goods I'd craved for nine months - runny french cheeses, a bottle of my all time favourite wine, pate, smoked meats... bliss.

He also bought me a vintage diamond ring. He didn't call it a push present though, that's a bit crass.

I am spoilt though, I will freely admit it. smile

philbee Sun 11-Nov-12 17:22:42

Have to say I'm finding all this a bit grim. DH bought me a portable radio when I went on mat leave so I could listen to it while feeding, but it wasn't a reward. We both wanted the baby, and we both want this one. We split housework now, he does a lot of cooking and after DD was born he fetched things for me, shopped and was a very loving dad, apart from the feeding it was evenly split. I can't imagine anything less practical than a diamond ring with all those nappies and handwashing. Just seems pretty grotty to bring such lavish gifts into it tbh. I'd rather have the money for a dinner out together later on.

philbee Sun 11-Nov-12 17:23:51

Excluding food / bath gifts from this, should say! It's the jewellery and bags I find a bit blugh.

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Sun 11-Nov-12 17:29:46

During my current and previous pregnancy, i have / had GD involving testing my blood several times a day, and injecting myself twice, aneamia and spd.. I didnt expect a present which is just as well as I didn't get one!! bloody deserved one though this time I think DP will bring me some nice foods to eat as I've missed some foods and mainly missed my apetite!! He may even think and get me some flowers when i come home but TBH as long as he is supportive (as he was last time) thats enough for me, demanding a gift would be a bit crass.

My dh and i have bought each other earrings/cufflinks on the birth of our daughters. But they certainly arent "push presents" more a gift to each other that marks their births. Dh has had pink enamel and mother if pearl cufflinks. Ive had some silver and dd's birthstone earrings. We both wore our items at their christenings and plan to on other special occassions in their lives.

TwitchyTail Sun 11-Nov-12 17:58:45

Gift to commemorate the birth of a child = lovely

"Push present" = vulgar, transactional and bleurrrgh

(Never mind that they might be exactly the same thing...)

I love the idea of a "banned food basket" specialknickers!

specialknickers Mon 12-Nov-12 13:59:20

Oh it was great twitchy, so thoughtful. And practical as well - we were so knackered for the first week after the labour (25 hours) that it's pretty much all we ate...

specialknickers Mon 12-Nov-12 14:07:45

Philbee a diamond ring a bit grim? Really? I thought it was very sweet. It's actually a tiny little solitaire, which I wear every day next to my wedding ring. It reminds me of DS and how much we planned for and wanted him, and what he means to me and DH. I like that probably people look at it and think what a mean engagement ring as well, because I know what it really is.

And my DH did nearly all of the childcare as well by the way. And mum care. He had to carry me to the toilet and hold me up in the shower I was so beaten up after the birth. I literally couldn't walk for a week, let alone look after a baby. He did all the night wakings, cuddlings and walking-aroundings. I still did the feedings mind, but that's biology for you.

philbee Mon 12-Nov-12 14:34:09

specialknickers, alright, not grim. I'm not a jewellery kind of person, still find my engagement ring a bit freaky tbh! When DH and i started going out i asked him for 'something to wear' (i.e. jewellery) for Christmas. I had an idea that that was the done thing. He bought me a coat. But I liked that more really!

So that's probably it, horses for courses. I'd always go for food or something practical! But I think the idea of marking the birth and being looked after is very nice. Your DH sounds like a good egg all round too.

Rosiesharples Mon 12-Nov-12 16:07:31

I had a bottle of Dom perignon and a bracelet as well as my beautiful DD of course. It was our first baby though so I kind of felt I deserved it after all the nights I spent in alone whilst DH was still out partying! I don't suppose there will be anything so extravagant for bubba no. 2! smile

MrsHoarder Mon 12-Nov-12 16:10:46

I got chocolate when visiting hours started and he could come back to see us. Not special chocolates, just a standard pack. I was delighted.

specialknickers Mon 12-Nov-12 16:14:39

Philbee. He is! I had to kiss a LOT of frogs to find him mind.. grin

kiwigirl42 Mon 12-Nov-12 16:25:10

I love reading these. I'm on the waiting list for a hysterectomy and keep teasing DH, asking what my push present for my uterus is going to be - I'm getting more and more extravagant as the days go by!

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