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Can anyone help me with this?

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AllyC71 · 22/02/2006 22:02

Hi, new to this site. Just found out today I'm pg. I already have a 2.5 year old whom I am very close to. My husband & I did want another child but when I got the result I just burst into tears and have felt really down about it all day. I don't feel disappointed but I don't feel elated. I do feel guilty that my toddler won't get the same attention, I love her very much and I'm scared of what this will do to our relationship. Does this make sense to anyone else? I just want to feel happy about it but don't know who to talk to.

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goldstarlover · 22/02/2006 22:10

i think what you are feeling is normal. I want another baby, but some days I just think that I can't do it because my relationship with ds will change and I don't want it to.

Was this baby planned? Or is it a big shock to you?

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AllyC71 · 22/02/2006 22:14

Hmmm .. well .. it wasn't entirely planned .. we were just not being careful but decided that we would be happy with a positive result. I just don't understand why I feel so rubbish about it. I guess it maybe happened sooner than I'd expected. This is only the 2nd month we'd, sort of, tried.

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goldstarlover · 22/02/2006 22:19

did you feel the same with first baby?

I know I did. I was chuffed to bits when i found out i was pregnant... but throughout pregnancy had these "moments" when i just thought, what the hell am i doing????

it's probably just been a bit of a surprise to you, but you will get used to it! think about all the reasons why you were trying for a baby in the first place

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AllyC71 · 22/02/2006 22:22

I was so excited with my first pregnancy and I think that's why I got such a shock with my feelings today. I have had a very emotional couple of days beforehand which I'm still in the thick of plus supposed to have a job interview on Friday .. returning to work!!! Am I crazy?

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helsi · 22/02/2006 22:25

there are no written rules how you should feel. Emotions and hormones are funny things. Your daughter will not miss out on anything.

Its hard to believe that your heart could possibly create any more love than it has for your first child but it will do. there will be plenty of love for both of them.

I have involved dd in this pregnancy from the start and she is so excited about it.

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alliebaba · 22/02/2006 22:30

you'll be fine, and your dd will never be lonely as will have a friend for life in her brother or sister x

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AllyC71 · 22/02/2006 22:35

Thanks everyone. I've been going spare today .. up and down like a yo yo and of course can't talk to anyone because it's such early days. Husband is away until tomorrow so it's been a tough day. Just needed to know I was normal! Thank you.