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wiosna · 15/04/2010 19:56

i'm not a drama queen when it comes to my dd but i think she's having a complete melt down over potty training

she's 2 and 4 months and according to nursery she's been ready for PT for ages. I've now been trying for 5 days 'cold turkey', nappy on only for sleep. first day - as expected. a few a accidents, but she would sit on a potty for 5 min at a time, did a few wees in there. day 2 - disaster struck. she gets upset every time she's had an accident (sometimes every 5-10 min, she can't store a full bladder i don't think), but won't sit on a potty for longer then 30 secs. as soon as she starts weeing (sometimes in the nickers, sometimes just standing next to the potty) she starts crying inconsolebly. Poo is an absolute disaser, you can't calm her down for half an hour. this evening she was going to bed, had nappy on and started weeing into it - even that set her off into tears.

what do i do? nursery said to try another day and then give up, cause it will only make things worse. but i feel that a few months down the line i will be exacrtly in the same place.
someone suggested the training pants. but i think they just a subsitute for a nappy, so what's the point?

any bright ideas?

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Sweeedes · 15/04/2010 20:01

Put her back in nappies then try again in a few weeks when you are both more relaxed. Hopefully the weather will have improved by then too.

Another Mumsnetter - Onebatmother - also told me to let the child choose the knickers/pants and that seemed to be spot on advice and worked a treat for us.

Good luck and don't worry.

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wiosna · 15/04/2010 20:10

we choose everything, i even took her to the shops to let her choose which nickers to buy. i also bought a special present (play tea set) to play when sitting on the potty, i try to read her books... i think i'll just give up...

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annh · 15/04/2010 20:19

She's obviously NOT ready for potty training, despite what the nursery say (perhaps just trying to make things easier for themselves?). Give up and try again in a few months.

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mummytime · 15/04/2010 20:50

If she is not ready give up! Both my DDs were late to potty train and then did it perfectly very quickly. Actually the older one refused to ever use a potty but was fine when we let her use the toilet. (Both much better than DS who we potty trained at normal time but had lots of accidents.)

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wiosna · 15/04/2010 20:56

yea, i think you're right. she might be physically ready, but clearly not emotionally

i guess i just wanted to get the smelly nappies out of the way. jus found out i'm pregnant and can't imaging changing pooy nappies with the sickness...

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thegirlwithsomethingextra · 15/04/2010 21:02

Agree with wiosna. The first time we tried potty training DD we stopped after a couple of days because she started doing her 'worry face' (certain facial expression she does when very anxious).

Tried again 3 months later and kept it very low key and she got it straight away for wees. Poos took another couple of months but she got there in the end. And the most important thing is that it was relatively stress free for all of us.