dd 2.7 pees as soon as I put her pants on - help!

[kitkat9]

So I have been gently training dd and she seemed to be doing ok - she went very quickly from peeing in the potty to using the toilet, although she refuses to poo in the loo!

But my biggest problem just now is this - in the morning when she gets up i take her nappy off and leave her bare before getting dressed for an hour or so, depending on when she wakes. Anyway, in this time she'll happily take herself off to the loo and pee no problem, but as soon as I dress her she pees. I explain that she mustn't pee in her pants, she needs to tell me when she needs to go etc but she doesn't, she just lets go!

Any thoughts? She's bright enough to realise what she's doing is the wrong thing, so where do i go from here?

[cyphercat]

I want to hear answers please. My dd has exactly same problem.

[mejon]

DD has been pt-d for a month or so and doing really well apart from the first two days or so when she went through 8 or 9 pairs of pants in a day.

She had been taking herself to the potty/toilet quite regularly before then and taking her nappy off to wee but as soon as the pants were on, I'm not sure whether it was because they were too thin to realise they were on or whether she was forgetting she needed to take them off first but she was weeing in them. Also I think maybe as she had to remember to lift her skirt/dress first, the pants were too much to remember (clutching at straws?) So on day 3 we went pant-less and did so for over a week and we had no accidents at all. I was a bit worried about reintroducing the pants but decided to do so with some trousers instead of a dress (which we'd been using previously). I think realising that there were trousers to pull down first helped and I don't think we had any problems from then on. Obviously this might not work, but it did for us. Now all I need to try to do is see if she can manage with tights as the weather is getting colder!

Good luck.

[BlueBumedFly]

Why not try taking her nappy off in the bathroom right by the loo. Give her the option to wee, then, if the answer is no put pants on right away, then offer very soon after, 5 mins/10 mins etc.

Why leave her bare? Why not introduce the pants immediately then getting dressed is not such a big thing?

[chummum]

When I potty trained our children I left them without pants at all for a couple of weeks. Usually a pair of loose trousers when we went out, they seemed to mistake the closeness feeling of knickers for having a nappy on in the beginning!
Worth a try!

[grin]

So there are two theories I spose - pant free for long enough to get in a rhythm vs pants she definitely knows are there. I think my feeling would be pant free but if you have to go out that's not entirely helpful. In the other camp, the 'obvious pant' camp, have you come across Bright Bots? (There are other similar ones I'm sure.) They are pants with a thin foam layer. My friend's LO loves them. They are thicker than pants but are definitely pants rather than a nappy. They're also good at soaking up a little leak. My LO is not as keen on them as Thomas pants but will wear them when his friend is! Worth a thought?

[grin]

Good point chummum about the loose trousers, I hadn't thought of that. I'd do that

[jen80]

I am also having this problem. I am convinced that my 2 year old boy is ready. For 5 days I fully dressed him and had a lot of success by sitting him on potty regularly but he never asked to go.

A friend suggested that I take his trousers and pants off altogether so the next day I did this and he had no accidents all day! He just went himself whenever he needed to.

Now a week later I tried to put him back in trousers and he just wets himself!
Maybe I have confused him too much by changing my tactics???

Should I just carry on putting him in pants and try to explain to him every time he wets himself that if he asks to use the potty I will help him with his clothes and he should tell me next time??