DD, 2, is dry during the day but not on a night, is there something I should be doing to encourage this?

[Mummyigotabogey]

DD started potty training about 5/6 weeks ago at 23 months, she has just turned 2 this weekend and is pretty much completely dry during the day with the odd exception. She's trained herself really and we've had no major issues so I'm very pleased about that. She's very good at telling me when she needs to go and uses both the potty and the toilet.

She still naps during the day, usually between 1-2 hours in the afternoon. 9 times out of 10 she is dry after waking up from her nap, I make sure she has a wee before she goes down and another when she wakes up.
She's showing no real signs of becoming dry on a night, in the whole six weeks that she's been training she's woken up completely dry maybe once or twice, three times at the most. I make sure she has a good wee before she goes to bed and try to limit how much water she has but often end up giving in as I don't want her to go thirsty.

I'm not particularly bothered as I know it's something that she hasn't really got any control over, I was just wondering if there was something I could do to make it easier for her? Or if she will just become dry by herself over time. She's just in pull ups on a night.

[Findtheoldme]

If you know she can't control it what makes you think you can do anything about it and what needs making easier for her?

Limiting water is out of order and not the way to do it anyway.

[madwomanbackintheattic]

Limiting water is actually the very worst thing to do. (The very first thing that docs check with bed wetting in 7/8 yos is if they are drinking enough during the day, and their bladder capacity).
And she's two.
No, she doesn't have any control over it. No, there is nothing you can do. No there is nothing you should do.

[Mummyigotabogey]

Ok . . . . Sorry, no need to be tetchy. She's my first child and I'm asking for advice

[ThereIsIron]

My advice is to wait another year.

[SagaNorensLeatherTrousers]

I'd definitely relax about it. She's really young, and trying to do anything to prevent it could just make it traumatic for you both. Little bodies usually adjust when they're ready (unless you're a bed-wetter like I was until the age of 7! ).

[Mummyigotabogey]

That's what I thought but just wanted to ask. I was a late bed wetter too saga I found it humiliating and degrading which is maybe part of e reason why I'm asking for advice.

[Findtheoldme]

Fuck that, one of mine wasn't dry until nine. No shame or embarrassment needed.

[slightlyconfused85]

Dd is 2.9 and has been dry in the day since early April. She is very wet overnight still and amount of drinking has no impact. HV told me it's completely normal and they can't do it until a certain hormone kicks in

[MagpieCursedTea]

I think being dry over night is related to hormones so not something that can be taught/trained IYSWIM

[capecath]

Yeah don't worry about it at all. Completely normal and average. The docs won't worry about it until they are 7!! DS1 is almost 5 and wet at night and docs not worried. DS2 is almost 3 and also wet at night.

[MissusSee]

Really no need to worry - my daughter was dry during the day at 2, but it was another eighteen months or so until she was fully dry at night. I used to lift her during the night to avoid over-wet and leaky nappies, although I know that some advice is not to do this. She's 11 now!
Appreciate your concerns - I think this is one of those things you worry about and then just happen without you realising!

[Vatersay]

Most of the children we know took about 6 months after being dry in the day time to being dry at night so don't stress.

I put my DC in pull ups at night and put a potty chair in their bedroom so that it was easier for them to make it to the loo when half asleep.

[madwomanbackintheattic]

Bed wetting is not humiliating and degrading. It is entirely normal until the body matures enough to produce vasopressin.
If the adults in your life made you feel humiliated and degraded, please don't do the same thing to your child.

I wasn't being tetchy. I was answering your questions. No, there isn't anything you can or should do. Your child is two. And lots of people think that limiting fluids will help. It won't. Often limiting fluids is counter productive and bladder capacity is inhibited. Hence me telling you not to limit fluids. To let you know not to do it...

So, providing the advice you asked for...

[3littlefrogs]

Completely normal at her age.
Do you lift her for a wee when you go to bed?
I used to lift mine at about 11pm until they were at least 3.
Limiting drinks is pointless.
IMO she is too young not to have a nappy at night.

[CatWithKittens]

If you lift you do have to make sure that the child wakes up thoroughly otherwise, so we were told by a paediatrician, you simply encourage them to wee while asleep. He also said that it does not really teach a child not to wet at night and that you can't do that because of the need for the hormone others have spoken about. He also said it runs in families and DH had a problem when he was a boy. (It was a real problem for him because he was sent away to board where there was a less than sympathetic school matron, but that's another story.) We have had four late to be dry at night, and DC5 is headed that way, and we gave up lifting after DS1 started school because it made him very tired to wake him properly. He was not wet any more or less often next morning when we stopped doing it and we have not tried at all with the younger ones. I would say that you might save a bit of washing on some days by lifting but equally there will be days when you may well fond she is wet when you lift and again in the morning so it's swings and roundabouts on the washing front with all the hassle of a wakeful child when you want to get to bed!

[Yika]

My DD was dry in the day more than 2 years ago, but is still in pull ups at night now, at 4.10 (Just to say that it can take a long time to get from the first to the second.)