Day 2 - advice please

[FoxSticks]

My dd has just turned 3 and we have started potty training. I wasn't sure if she was ready as she didn't seem to know if she was about to go to the toilet or if she had been. She was asking to sit on the toilet a lot though so I thought I couldn't ignore the interest.

We started yesterday, I wasn't following any particular method just a mixture of what friends had done. I decided to let her just have accidents so she could see how it felt and hopefully be able to associate the feeling with getting to the potty on time. I haven't been doing the sit on the potty every half hour because I have friends who have said their kids have got irritated by that approach. Also if you catch a wee that way it's probably a fluke isn't it?

So day one went well. She did a poo in her pants fairly early on. I said it didn't matter, didn't make a big deal out of it and cleaned her up. Then nothing happened for four hours, at which point the floodgates opened. She was a bit upset and again I said it didn't matter and cleaned her up. About an hour later I went off and cleaned the kitchen, when I came back into the living room she was on her potty having pulled her pants and leggings down by herself. She told me she had done a poo, she had actually done a wee. Lots of praise and excitement and she got a chocolate button and sticker as a reward. I was especially pleased as she'd done it by herself.

Next we had another wet accident then finished the day with her telling me she needed a poo and I helped her onto the potty and she did a wee. Again lots of praise and reward. So I thought day one had gone well especially as she had initiated both potty wees.

Day two started with a poo in her nappy as she was still in pjs. Must get her changed earlier. Then nothing. Every time I said did she want to use the potty she said no. I asked her to try a couple of times and each time she sat there for about 30 seconds then jumped up again and said she didn't need to go. She was holding it in, after 7 hours she couldn't do that any longer and wet herself. She was very upset about it and we told her it didn't matter we'd get it in the potty next time. She then did another three wees in quick succession all in her pants, four wet accidents in 20 minutes! After the fourth one we encouraged her to sit on the potty and she did a wee in it. So we ended the day on a high.

I'm worried that she is holding it in and getting so upset about it. Have we chosen the wrong time to tackle this, should we go back to nappies or persevere? She obviously has some notion that she needs to go or she wouldn't be able to hold it in. Any advice would be gratefully received!

[FoxSticks]

Crikey that's long - sorry!

[FoxSticks]

Any advice please? We started day 3 with her having a small leak in her knickers we sat her on the potty straight away and she did a wee.

She has had three tiny leaks in the last half hour so she must be holding it in. We then sit her on the potty, nothing happens and she is complaining that she wants to get up within a minute. I'm finding that incredibly frustrating. I don't mind her having accidents but holding it in is just irritating because it shows that she can do it physically but there is some sort of mental block. I got cross with her last time, I know I shouldn't have done and told her she would have to go back in nappies like a baby if she didn't try. She said she wanted a nappy!

Please help!

[FoxSticks]

Please! Don't make me beg! Ok well I am begging. Another leak should we just give up?

[TheBakeryQueen]

Do not give up! She has already proven she can do it.

Have you got any potty training books/stories that you can read with her? I found stories & pictures very helpful.

Definitely encourage potty first thing as they nearly always need a wee then.

Tell her beforehand what reward she will get for going on the potty. And when she does go big on the praise.

Check if she needs a wee frequently in the early days.

Has she chosen her own pants etc?

[1122christy]

If she's not sitting on the potty for long enough then maybe encourage her to sit on it longer by maybe letting her play/watch a film on tablet/iPad when sitting on potty or keeping books/toys next to it.
You could show her some potty training YouTube clips, obv ones suited to kids watching. She might like seeing other kids giving it a try.