DD has been a bit slower than most with potty training. She didn't wee on the loo till she was 3.5, and still had to get a nappy to poo in every evening till she was 4. She's 4.5 now and wees and poos in the loo like a pro, even in public loos, but we can't get her dry at night.
We tried her in pants at night but she had accidents every time and got terribly upset. On the most recent occasion, she refused to go back to sleep 'in case she had a nightmare' and stayed awake till 4am. She hadn't had a nightmare, I know what she's like after one of those and this wasn't it - she was just worried about wetting the bed again (but trying to hide that that was what she was worried about).
She's a complete perfectionist and doesn't want to do anything unless she's sure she can do it right. And she's determined to hide her worries from us; she likes to pretend that everything's fine because she thinks that what we want to hear, so it's hard to talk to her about things like this. I don't know how to get around it all.
In all honesty my instinct is just to leave her in pullups at night and let her work it out when she's ready (like she did with pooing in the loo; she asked for a nappy every evening for months and we didn't put any pass on it, then one evening she announced that she was going to poo on the loo and she did - and has done ever since). But my mum's been putting pressure on us, saying that she's going to be very embarrassed if other kids find out that she wears pullups and that we're not being fair to her. She thinks we should just put pants on her every night with no regard for the upset and lack of sleep it will cause; she reckons 'it will only take about 6 weeks or so' of DD crying her eyes out and trying to stay up all night.
Is she right? Should we just get on with it? Or do we start lifting her every night when we go to bed - from what I've read about this it doesn't seem to be recommended any more by paediatric urologists but lots of mums seem to swear by it? (On the other hand, plenty seem to swear at it because they end up having to do it for years!)
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How to get a sensitive 4.5 year old dry at night?
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BuilderMammy · 27/10/2014 17:12
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