My DS, 3 in July, started potty training last summer but we felt it was too soon so we went back to nappies until this Easter. All went brilliantly at first with very few accidents; he got to the stage of even going to the toilet on his own, pulling down pants and flushing the chain. We were delighted and made a big fuss of him which he loved. But gradually he has been having more and more 'accidents' and is very reluctant to go to the loo. He never takes himself any more and has to be cajoled into going with it often turning into a battle of wills. If I do get him on the potty or loo he often does nothing then minutes later he has weed through his pants/trousers and doesn't seem to be bothered about it. he wees on the sofa, the floor, through his clothes and I am constantly cleaning him and the floors up. We use star charts, rewards and LOTS of encouragement but after such a long time I am getting incredibly frustrated, not least but the amount of dirty washing.
At pre-school he often has accidents; he's never had a dry morning there.
Most problematic however is that he does not like to wee into a nappy during his afternoon nap/nigh time. We frequently come in to find he has removed his nappy and has wet the bed or the carpet in his room. We were considering putting a potty in his bedroom????
I have a DS of 16 weeks as well and finding it all a bit much. His behaviour may be linked to the new baby, very likely is a contributing factor, but we still need to work this out.
We were considering giving up for now and trying again in the summer holidays, But he doesn't like wearing nappies any more so we may be past the point of no return - help!!! I am finding it very hard not to get cross with him as often I get the feeling it is on purpose and he is not a bit sorry about it.
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Lots of accidents but wont keep a nappy on... HELP!
clemmiejones · 23/05/2011 14:33
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Could you get a fun timer and set it so that it goes off every 20 mins so there's a easily audible reminder to go to the potty? You could get him to help you set it so it becomes something that he's in charge of rather than you 'nagging' him to go all the time... Just make sure you don't use your regular kitchen timer otherwise he's going to be dashing off to the potty every time you need to get something out of the oven too 
I can see why you remind him every 15 mins but maybe it's a vicious circle of he doesn't want to go because it seems to be happening so frequently, if it is not quite so often you might have more success.
I have a ds (now 3.2) who is just in the middle of potty training - didn't bother to try to do it earlier as he just wasn't interested and never told us when he needed a new nappy despite us asking. Nursery have been great - have you involved his pre-school and asked if there is anything they can suggest? Also ds isn't that bothered about the potty but loves going on the 'big boy' toilet - with one of the little seats you can get popped on top (make sure you get one with handles and the wee guard though!) - might be worth a try if you don't have one and maybe he could help choose one so could provide some encouragement and engagement? plus will help to reinforce his 'big boy-ness' and that he is not a baby (again this is something that appeals lots to ds2 but he is the youngest so it might be that your ds is wanting to hold on to being a baby if he has a younger sibling)
Also is there anything he loves doing - ds for example loves playing one of the games on my iphone. could you bribe him with an immediate reward of a minute on the potty equals a go on the game (or you reading him his favourite book, or watching his favourite cartoon or something else that he loves doing and could do immediately afterwards?
good luck, hoping your washing and cleaning nightmare is over soon...
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