Please can someone give me a positive story re prolapse. I don't think I can take any more problems after having my son.

[solidarityplease]

Hi, I'm sorry if this is a bit rambling, I'm not feeling in a good place right now.

Had DS 21 months ago. Appalling labour, induction, extended pushing, ended up with forceps and 3rd degree tear. He was 9lb 2oz, and as I am of very slight build, he was a very big baby for me to deliver.

Was left in absolute mess down there and also a major nerve in my leg was crushed after being left in stirrups for too long. Was unable to walk for months after giving birth, was eventually remedied after months of intensive physiotherapy.

I am currently going through investigation process with hospital as I believe I received extremely sub standard care.

I have been diagnosed with PTSD and I am about to start an intensive course of therapy with birth trauma counsellor. (Which I am shitting myself about)

Go to insert a tampon this evening and I discover what I'm assuming is a prolapse. I'm devastated. The thought of having to be examined fills me with absolute terror, I have so many dreadful emotions surrounding the trauma I just don't know how I can actually lie down and be examined.

I just really need to hear some positive outcomes about prolapses. I don't feel I can face anything else happening to my body. I also developed vitiligo during my pregnancy which seems to be accelerating across my body at the moment, and after 20 months of breastfeeding I have disgusting and hanging uneven breasts.

What on earth will happen to me if I have another child??? I can't take any more, physically or mentally.

Is there any one out there who had their prolapse properly sorted out? All I seem to hear are stories of women being fobbed off with pelvic floor exercises.

Thank you in.advance. Sorry for the pity party

[ForewarnedisForearmed]

Hi OP,
Wow I thought my experience was bad. Big hugs to you.
I have a prolapse (dd is almost 19 months) and doctor said physio is all I can do until I have 'completed my family', then surgery. They won't do surgery yet because the procedure is risky (may damage baby making bits).

[ouchouchow]

So sorry you've had such a hard time. What you've said chimes with my own experience, which has been rubbish!

I had ventouse, forceps, episiotomy and a 3b tear 25 months ago. I needed surgery 10 months on as the stitching wasn't right. Then about 18 months on I had a bladder prolapse after having a bad cough.

I'm finding it really hard to move on and it still feels very raw.

Having the bladder prolapse means that I often have a bulging sensation when I walk, which is a constant reminder of the birth and its aftermath, and I find myself going over it all far too often.

BUT pelvic floor exercise and physio makes a big difference to how the prolapse feels, and I don't think I have worse leakage etc than average after childbirth. I'm sure I'll have to have surgery at some point, but for now it doesn't actually cause any problems other than being another upsetting thing to deal with.

[MewlingQuim]

I have a rectocele prolapse after the birth of DD. It felt horrible after the birth, but pelvic floor exercises have helped loads so don't despair. I haven't been able to face using tampons since the birth but I use a mooncup instead and wish I had discovered it years ago. DD is now three and although I can feel the prolapse if I put my fingers in (sorry tmi) it no longer freaks me out and I hope to avoid ever needing surgery to correct it.

[familysizepack]

Mewling , I think I have the same thing. I'm going to ask at my postnatal check. It appeared at about 3 weeks (well that's when I noticed it while I checked my stitches) and is much more obvious if I'm a little constipated. :( I can feel it when I'm walking around sometimes.

Did you get referred for physio?

[Josieannathe2nd]

Physio does help, it's not just pelvic floor exercises but your whole core and posture that will need looking at as they all work together. There's a DVD called Hab-it which is wonderful and after 6 months of doing it although I may never run marathon I can walk and occ run without feeling that my insides are falling out. Surgery can help but there is a lot else you can do.