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No idea if I can squeeze this post in, but new thread here (apols for the unimaginative title)

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Daisy: is there any chance of getting referred to a specialist as your DS's cough has been going on so long? Or is it still the case that they don't officially diagnose things like asthma until they're a bit older?

Daisy: hope the powder works. And good luck for the second interview - they were obv v impressed!

Urbane: I think it's always interesting to go for other jobs and go through the interview process whatever you decide. Which is how I'm veering to the job I'll apply for. I haven't done a proper job application for 10 years so if nothing else it'll be very good practice. Re: the p/t working, I'm thinking vaguely about aiming to work p/t by the time the boys are in school, asi'd like to be around to fight their corner if necessary.

Aub: and the potential job is London-based though slightly closer to the station than I am now. Sorry to hear about your bug and hope you feel better soon. It;s the worst time of year for getting ill, esp if you have the double whammy of office germs and nursery germs by proxy.

Kayz: grrr at the delay in getting your hot water back. Am also snickering at your MIL's idea of dangerous areas of London, if you were staying down the road from our old flat (generally known as Murder Mile) she may have had a point. Mind you I was listening to a Baltimore journalist on the radio who visited Brixton and was pretty bemused at the idea that it was a perious gang-ridden hellhole. All relative I s'pose.

LadyT: I get that with DS2, I think it's separation anxiety (he also gets v cross if I leave the room). I remember leaving DS1 overnight with my MIL for the first time when he was about 18 mo, he ignored DH and I ccompletely for about a day! I found it very distressing but he soon got over his sulk . I'd love to read your book once it's finished.

Love the idea of a one-year evening meetup, even if I have to leave early to get a train. Photographs of babies a great plan.

Yikes I've got a second interview on Thursday.

DS now has to take some funny powder stuff once a day with his tea, which apparently can be more effective than an inhaler in some infants. He has two weeks worth, so i am hoping that it works and gets rid of this bloody cough. He was awake and coughing from 3am last night and the only way he would sleep was upright. So I ended up with him asleep on me, so I got very little sleep from 3am (if any) but I did get a stiff neck sat bolt upright with a hefty babe on my lap!

ladyt DS has grown very attached to DH and I. He screams if we leave the room to make a cup of tea.

LadyT I've stopped driving for now. I still get really scared behind the wheel. I will probably start up again after Xmas as I really want to be able to drive.

On the subject of driving. My brother has his test at 11:40 tomorrow. So I have everything crossed for him. I really hope he passes.

Yay Lady!! Get your license and come and visit me....!! Dh is working SO much at the new job and has to do resident on calls now as we live further so I find myself twiddling my thumbs... I started my return to work work last night though - but after I return I won't be busy again which sounds rather backwards but true! I could always drive over to visit you too however I am a bad influence and never come over "sad" or empty handed I think you are the closest to me? No? Sybs not quite sure how far you are - what's your area again?
Invis - thanks, I'm going to stick with it for now then as I've ditched the bottles and he necks his milk quite quick in his new one! He has a cup of milk with his breakfast, but he needs quite a bit of practise before going with it full time. We would need a cow in the back yard to keep up with the supply if I did that with all his spills and wastage!

Urgh, I am ill AGAIN. I hate this. I feel like I have severe morning sickness except I know I am not pregnant. Its only 3 weeks since my last vomiting virus. Its so depressing, I just don't know what to do.

LadyT - Poor little O and poor you being made to feel guilty. I think anger is a very common reaction in babies when a parent goes away. When DD1 was 18 months DH went to Australia for 10 days. When he returned she was furious and actually hit him and screamed at him for about 20 minutes. He was devastated and I actually cried watching it happen. She was clearly overwhelmed with emotion and did not understand how she felt or how to express it. Like O she had been happy as larry while he was gone. Our babies are now at the age where attachment really kicks in. Its evolutionary, as they get ready to walk their brains tell them to stay with Mummy to stop them wandering into danger. Therefore I would be prepared for more of the same for a while.

Urbane - I know that fear that comes when you consider leaving the CS for the private sector. Is any private company likely to be as understanding about family commitments etc, will it really provide as stimulating work, is the money worth it??? I have interviewed for a few private sector jobs and was offered one which was twice my salary but a quarter of my holidays... I just could not do it. But its nice your interview went well. I think your plan to arrange your work so the whole family is together after school sounds blissful. Really, really lovely. And how great that your DH wants to do it too. I hope you can make it work. Oh, and next time you have work in my building e-mail me and we can grab a coffee. I will send you my work e-mail via FB.

Kayz - Lol, lol, lol at your MiL thinking Fulham is rough. It is the home of the Sloane nowadays. All areas in London are mixed but I agree with LadyT that you are at more danger of tripping over an alice band than being shot (love that line LadyT!). Have a great weekend and enjoy the hot water in your hotel.

Invisible - If your DD is anything like my DD1 then you will hear nothing but ballet and princess references from now on in. I was always a tomboy as a child and I have no idea how I spawned such a glittery, pink girly-girl. Its fun though, like having a little friend to ask outfit advice of.

Effie - Will your full time job be in London? If so you are going to have more reading time than anyone! Good on your DH for being so supportive, I hope it all works out.

Beans - I would find the ironman proposal very hard to stomach. But then I feel strongly that DH and I chose to be a family and the majority of our "spare" time should be family time. We are all happy when we are together and nobody feels burdened or resentful. When DH is out/away at weekends I find it much harder than when I am in charge of the kids during the week. During the week I have lots of other local Mums I can hang out with and there are all sort of play groups and activities to keep us busy. But at weekends the other Mums are with their families and no activities are run. Do you think your DH realises the impact his training will have on you?

Right, the nausea is overwhelming again, am going to try lying very still.

LadyT - I did do the ballet thing in my dim and distant youth - I was the clompy one at the back - not a natural! Fraid I am sadly talentless in these creative directions, am also the only one who failed the school choir audition for being completely incapable of holding a tune...(Still, better than DH - he was paid off by the choirmaster not to show up). Hopefully DCs are a bit better than that score - definitely won't deny them the opportunity to have a go!

Ach - just one more thing - Kayz, have you been doing any driving? It is number one on my To Do list - get some refresher lessons...

Ah, was just about to go off and, Invis, you have sucked me back in again...Maybe it's a sign you should take up ballet. It's never too late. Actually, I am not being serious (I had to qualify that as I usually think it's never too late for anything). I'd quite like DD to do ballet but only because the tiny ones look so cute bimbling around in their gear. But if it's Saturday mornings that puts an unwelcome dampener on my social life <selfish> - but given that the child is 1 in a fortnight and can't move except to flap her hands, I may be getting ahead of myself. Hey - maybe MY child is not going to bother with crawling or walking and will just fly

Urbane - forgot to say, hope you all feel better soon. I am with you on thinking about the whole 'how my life is going to work' thing. By this time next year I need to be earning money. And then there is the whole when and how thing...particularly if I think about having another kid. It seems cynical to wait until I have got a job so I can then get mat pay. Sigh...right, MUST get on with my stuff...