Ella, I have read an article about SIdS and the recommendations coming out of it; the matter is not that straghit forward, the study regarding SIdS is very statistical, but then they don't break it down enough to show other dangers; the artcile was concluding sleeping on sofa with your baby is far more dangeraous than sleeping in bed with your baby. It also explained that co-sleeping is most dangerous when either or both of parents have been drinking, etc. In summary, they said, the recommendations ignored what exhaustion could do and didn't offer very practical advice to parents whose LO simply would not sleep on their back in their cot!!! (Oh and there is no shortage of them here or on any postnatal thread, simply cause they are many). I myself co-sleep when I need to, but dh goes to spare room so ds has the whole half of big bed. And I very rarely drink and if I do, I'll make sure dh does not and max one unit is limit.
About their recommendations, I had to do all this research early on, before deciding to let ds sleep on his tummy, to put my mind in rest. That, plus the small investment in breathing monitor was the best thing I did.
Which leads me to : I honestly symphatise with all you mums with babies waking quite frequently. I am pretty sure if ds was not sleeping on his tummy he would only sleep ten minutes at the time. Even during the day he hardly ever sleeps on his back. Have you tried to let them nap during the day on their tummy while you are watching to see if they like it?
Ds wakes one to three times a night, who said even that is killing me very slowly? I agree :) I really don't know how some of you can manage with more wakings... You are so strong...