Right - I just wanted to defend myself. I hate dramas and scandals etc, so I was just trying to lie low and hide away whilst it all calmed down/was forgotten about. Mama pmd me, I explained why I had been upset (and acknowledged it was just the way I was seeing things, and may not have been intended that way. Maybe that was wrong to do, but I prefer to settle things privately, than publicly), and said "thanks for apologising" - whether she missed that message, I don't know. But I have it saved in my sent box, so it's definitely there.
I can't stand any of the "he said she said" stuff, so when I saw I was being nastily written about to say I had ignored apologies, and I did feel that was playground, and so felt uncomfortable returning to the thread, it's just embarrassing, for all involved. After being portrayed that way (unfairly) it didn't/doesn't feel like I'd be welcome, anyway.
I just want it all to go away. I'm quite a shy person IRL, and don't like getting involved in this stuff. But I want to point out I DID say thank you, and staying off here isn't me having a sulk or flounce, I just wanted to let things die down.
What with what's happened with expat and her little girl, a difference of opinion isn't a big deal.