Cant invite everyone...

[MamaMaiasaura]

I feel really guilty as ds is having a party at home this year (7th) inviting 18 children although expecting a few not to be able to come. Our house isnt huge and they are quite big now

Ds's class size is 30 and so some children arent invited. He has really invited those he plays with.

One child (who freuqently hits ds and other kids) asked me if he was coming as he hasnt got an invitation. I said that unfirtunatly we couldnt invite everyone as not enough room and sorry he wasnt invited. Feel terrible as although he has been a bit of a bully I cant help thinking that part of the reason he is mean to other kids is his own low self esteem. Ds really doenst want this boy to come and has very limited numbers. I feel completely crappy tho.

[Tommy]

I think 18 7 year olds is plenty to have in your house!

It's your DS's party - if he doesn't want this other boy to come, then that's the end of it IMO.

You can't always invite everyone to a party - just look at the number of "wedding list dilemma" threads there are here!!

[Hulababy]

I agree that 18 is more than enough for a home party! No way I could have half that many in my house!

[scatterbrain]

You're too nice Awen !! Don't feel guilty about it - he's not one of you ds's friends so he doesn't get an invite - end of story really.

I was similarly worried for my dd's party - she had girls only this year and wanted to not invite just two girls from her year - She doesn't play with either of them, doesn't like either of them and didn't want them to come. I spent ages explaining how unkind this was and persuaded her to invite all the girls ! Both these two accepted the invitations - one failed to show on the day and I have never heard a word about it - the other was dropped off by her Dad outside the hall and sent in on her own 20 mins before party due to start, and was collected 20 mins late by an unknown woman - neither the dad or the woman even acknwoledged our existence, let alone thanked us or apologised for lateness !! I won't be doing that this year !

[HuwEdwards]

Oh don't feel crappy Awen, I have never been in a position to invite DDs whole class - she could have a decent party with cousins alone, we have that many! And in turn there are parties she doesn't get invited to - and she's quite accepting of that.

[MamaMaiasaura]

It was his face - he looked so upset. I feel bad for him as he says really horrible things to other kids like "your the worst kid in the world' 'nobody will ove you' stuff like that. He also hits them. Just wonder what he is being told about himself for him to be so negative to otehrs.

[Kbear]

I had this problem over DD's party yesterday. I said she could have 10 friends round - a mum of a child not invited came over to me last week and said is XXXX invited only I haven't seen an invitation and she keeps saying that your DD is having a party and thinks she is invited. I had to say I'm terribly sorry but I had to restrict the numbers and can't invite everyone. She understood but I did feel bad as my DD went to her DD's party last year. But you can't invite everyone if it's in your home can you.

Why would your DS want a child at his party that hits him anyway? If you want to help you could maybe invite the child to tea one day and see how that goes.