Did you invite your husband to be's SIL on your hen party?

[nappyaddict]

DP's younger brother is getting married in August and I am presuming as I have heard nothing of a hen do yet then I am not invited.

His twin brother got married in 2012 to which he was best man and neither me or younger brother's GF got invited.

I always thought it was usual to invite the husband to bes SILs, husbands sister, husbands mum etc on these things but maybe not.

DPs mum and step mum were invited on the first one and I think on the upcoming one. AFAIK twin brother's wife has not been invited on this one either.

[ThinkIveBeenHacked]

I think generally a Hen Night/Weekend is the Hen, her BMs, sometimes the Mums, and then a selection of her closest friends.

Do you fall into any of these categories?

[goshhhhhh]

It wouldn't have occurred to me. Are you close to her?

[NerrSnerr]

I wouldn't have done myself. I only invited friends.

[Eastpoint]

I/my best friend (didn't have any bridesmaids) didn't invite my SILs, my MIL or my mother to my hen night - it was held for me by my friends - it isn't a family occasion it's a last night as a single woman occasion.

[Sleepyfergus]

There's no rule, just depends if the Jen wants you there or not. Perhaps she has a very close knit group of friends and is leaving it at that. Perhaps the best friend organising it doesn't know you exist so hasn't invited you. Perhaps she's shit at organising as hasn't sent out invites yet? Perhaps it isn't even decided yet so no-one has been in touch. Perhaps the activity they have organised is restricted to a certain number.

Lots of reasons. If you really want to know, can you ask (or get your DH to ask his brother if he knows what the set up is?)

Are you bothered?

[Sleepyfergus]

Hen obvs, not Jen.

[scribblegirl]

I would if DP had a sister (and if we were getting married!)

However, I really don't get the whole 'mums on hens' thing. So weird. Why would I invite my/DP's mum on a night out when I never normally would??

[PotteringAlong]

Didn't cross my mind. My hen do, my friends.

[FlaviaAlbia]

I did, but I'd been with DP for about 10 years and was good friends with my SIL and went out with her a lot. I didn't invite my MIL or my DM though.

[StandoutMop]

Thank god I married an only child, otherwise I would've committed a faux pas, as no I wouldn't have invited his sister / sister-in-law, unless I happened to be friends with them. I didn't invite mil or my mother either.

DH did invite future bil to his stag, but they were already friends, and in fact how bil and my sister met.

[DragonWithAGirlTattoo]

if you are friends, then its odd, if you;'re not... then its not

[nappyaddict]

the ones i have been on mums have gone if a spa type thing or seeing a show but not if a night out.

For both weddings the hen's brother or bils have been invited on the stag, despite not being close to the groom. I guess that's why it made me wonder why the same didn't happen for the hen nights.

[mygrandchildrenrock]

Maybe the groom doesn't have as many close friends as the bride so can pad the numbers out with family/in-laws.

[nappyaddict]

That may have been the case with the twin brother but not little brother. he has a huge amount of friends. both stag dos have had quite a large number of people going on them anyway. A hen/stag do doesn't really need to have a limit on numbers unless you have booked something like a cottage/villa that only sleeps a certain amount of people, a private dining room that has a maximum capacity or a cocktail masterclass that might have a limit on numbers.

I am the type of person that wants to include everybody if I can though. I wouldn't say I am close friends with the hen due to them living about 2 hours away so we don't see them much, although I do wish we could spend more time together as I do really like her. We get on well enough and we are all going on a family holiday before the wedding.

[Justyouwaitandsee]

I invited my DM and MIL plus both my bil's gfs and a couple of my DHs cousins who I am close to. The cousins and one GF didn't come, but had a great time with DM, mil and other GF.

[Justyouwaitandsee]

Oops - meant to say, I do think it is each to their own though. Depending on the type of day/night planned, some people do, some don't.

[Elledouble]

I didn't invite my SIL-to-be on mine when I married my ex-husband, no, but she was only sixteen (and an utter cowbag, it was bad enough she had to be a bridesmaid).

I went to my current partner's SIL's hen do - it was a little awkward because I didn't really know many people. I've been invited to his sister's hen do as well, but I can't go. If we got married and I had a hen do (most unlikely, I hate throwing parties) I would invite his sisters and his SIL.

[Elledouble]

I guess what I mean to say is that it depends on your relationship with the people involved - tbh, if you're not close enough to the bride-to-be to have heard about any hen do plans, you're probably not invited. I'd only invite people I was friendly with, whether they were related or not