I took my DS (3.8) to a party today for one of his friends at nursery. I was dreading it, because I'm quite a shy person and I find small talk with other mums and dads really stressful. I'm pretty sure that my DS didn't know I was dreading it though.
DS started whining and saying he wanted to go home almost as soon as we got through the door. I tried to get him interested in a few things and not pressure him too much to 'take part'. Anyway, the other kids started playing a game, which I thought would be good - DS wouldn't have that sense of everyone looking at him, IYKWIM? He just carried on and on whining and saying he wanted to go home, so eventually I just snapped (though when I say snapped I mean just in my head), picked him up and left , asking someone to pass on my apologies.
DS had a full blown meltdown. I now feel awful, mostly for being so rude to the parents holding the party but also totally ground down by DS's constant whining and grumpiness, and the effort of not losing my temper/raising voice/etc.
I think the reason I put that bit at the beginning about ME dreading it, is because part of me is wondering if this is all MY problem. I don't remember ever having meltdowns on the scale of my DS, but I do recognise the uneasiness in social situations that he seems to experience. I have no idea how to address it though, because I've never overcome it myself...
Does any of that make sense? What do you think?
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FouxDuFaFa · 11/07/2009 16:25
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