A slight situation developing which I'd really like some wise words on...
DD1 is 4 (just). We live in an area where there are lots of children, which is great, and my DD is friendly with quite a few local kids. All very lovely.
The thing is that there is one little girl locally who she is also friendly with and I really don't want my child playing with her too much. I have to admit that the reason for this is basically snobbery so I'm probably (and deservedly) about to be flamed.
The little girl in question is quite sweet, but I'm really not very comfortable with her being good friends with my DD, for several reasons. Firstly, we live in a quiet cul-de-sac and this little girl (she's about the same age as my DD) is often out to play by herself unsupervised - my DD is not allowed out to play in the street without me. Because this little girl is on her own she hangs out with quite a few of the older kids (8/9) and I have seen her be quite aggresive, not, I think, because she is nasty, but just because she can't cope with the older kids.
I think it's fair to say that this girls mother and I are very VERY different. I've tried to say hello to her and chat a few times, but she really isn't interested - she just says a few words then goes back into her house and leaves her daughter to it.
The main problem is that my DD often asks out to play with this girl and I have to say no because I have something to do in the house or am busy with DD2 (who is 18 months). And I really don't want the little friend in the house as I have a feeling she will end up here all the time, and the one occassion she did come in I found it very hard to keep on top of the situation.
Do I just have to accept that kids make their own friends and let my DD get on with it? Or do you think it is reasonable to put a bit of a lid on the friendship (I don't mean that she can't see her at all, just that I don't want her hanging out with her all the time).
Do i even make any sense?
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motherconfusion · 23/04/2009 14:05
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