My ds who is 7 has been regularly playing out after school with a 9 year old girl and a ten year old boy.
This did work okay for a little while but I did start to notice that the two others were drifting away from my ds a bit and were sort of calling for each other and not coming for my ds so much.
My ds has continued to play with them but every time there appears to be nothing but arguments with these 2 going against my ds and siding with each other blaming him for everything and these two always stick up for each other and make out its my ds's fault in all of their little arguments.
Now I do also know that my ds can be an awkward little so and so and likes things to go his way and can go into some awful moods when he feels like it and I do therefore think this has contributed to these problems.
The problem as well is that there is a maturity difference between the three of them with the other two being more mature and more on a par with each other.
I would also say that there has maybe also been a bit of bullying and of them pushing my ds out of things a little bit.
Tonight this all came to a bit of a head I went to check on my ds to see what they were all doing and heard the ten year old shouting at my ds who was lying on the floor in floods of tears he had his foot on my ds's bike and woudn,t let it go, the girl was enticing this boy along and was asking him to throw his bike out of the gate they were all on this boys front garden.
I was quite appaled by what I saw and asked them what they thought they were doing adn they said my ds had started trashing everything in this boys garden and had thrown the other boys scooter down onto the floor and had then slammed the gate shut.
I have not really being able to get down as to why if this is true why my ds would go into such a mood.
This all ended up outside my house with the girls mom involved who did say that whenever they play together that my ds has been running to her door and saying they won,t let him to this or that I did say o the girls mom that I don,t think a threesome works and I believe that thats part of the problem in this case.
I know my ds gets upset easily and I know he can get some bad moods on him but I also think that there is fault on the other two sides as well as really I think that they just want to be on their own without my ds.
What should I do shall I just stop him attempting to play with these two and also if ever any of them are at a loose end and one of them decides to call for him should I send them away.
I feel really upset and stressed out after the events of tonight.
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Should I just keep him in now I feel stressed about it all
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crazedupmom · 21/11/2008 23:42
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