Welcome to MN!
- When baby comes home, how often does baby sleep? Eat? Cry? - I imagine it's very different, depends if LO has colic, wind, reflux, how they are fed. My advice is feed on demand (I always used to say "she can't be hungry - I only fed her an hour ago!" but she probably was), sod the housework, ask friends to provide you with meals instead of presents, and at least rest if you can't sleep when the baby sleeps.
- Do you ever get any sleep?
It's broken and it's tough. You will dream about the baby, you will dream that you've lost it or dropped it! Doesn't feel like a break but it does get better. Try and make sure you preserve night and day (easier said than done) and remember that newborns aren't
supposed to sleep through, no matter what anyone else says.
- Is it as hard as they say it is?
Yes, it is, but it's also more rewarding than anyone can explain.
- On average, how much does it cost to have a baby? Bear necessities.
Tough one, you don't need a lot, beg, borrow and steal stuff, NCT nearly new sales, freecycle, charity shops. You'll need something for it to sleep in and something for it to wear, nappies, and a pushchair. Not much else for the first couple of months. But you will need some TLC for yourself ;)
All totally normal to be worrying about. But you know what, you really cannot prepare yourself for what it is going to be like, so in the meantime look after yourself, enjoy peace and quiet, hot meals and hot drinks, reading newspapers and having a lie in! And make the most of mumsnet - it's been invaluable for me.