I'm going through a difficult separation at the moment, and DS (3) - while adjusting generally really quite well - is getting the worst of me at times.
Bedtimes have become a faff fest - taking an age to clean teeth, wanting more milk, a snack, etc. I don't want to come down on him like a ton of bricks, with everything that's going on; but I'm getting worn down too, as I'm already feeling poo and then my evenings are becoming a bit of a fiasco.
Yesterday evening, he came up to the kitchen to say he was still hungry and thirsty after lights out. I snapped something about him needing to be in bed asleep. He called me a "stupid idiot" which sent me over the edge. I barked at him to get to his room and calm down as it wasn't OK to talk to me like that. He trundled off, and I threw an old plastic dish of his on the floor - it was already cracked and headed for the bin, so I thought it was an acceptable thing to throw in frustration. He came back up to the kitchen and saw what had happened and was mortified.
He cried back down in his room for a bit, then I went down to settle him. He was really upset. He said: "Mummy, you shouted at me and I cried and cried. You've hurt my feelings. You shouldn't talk to little boys like that."
And of course he's absolutely right.
This evening in bed, he said he was still sad about how I talked to him yesterday.
Crikey, this is a bloody tough time. X does see DS a few times a week and I have family close by, but it's still emotionally and physically exhausting. I'm scared that I'm really too inconsistent, wobbly, explosive and tearful at the moment to be DS's rock. Will he be OK? How the hell do I avoid this kind of thing happening when I'm maxed out myself, and just very sad? Can anyone tell me it's not that damaging?!
Sigh. Feel better for getting it off my chest, at least. Thanks for listening.
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Feel so guilty for how I shouted at DS (3) yesterday. Pls help me feel better ...
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Twoddle · 30/04/2008 23:26
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