Why am I feeling a tad p----d off??

[Flowertop]

I have a very dear friend who has two DD's, I have two Ds's all same age i.e. 9 and 7. Each week we take in turns to take to an after school activity. My friend's DD1 (9) has been having issues at school with another girl and she has been role playing with her DD trying to help her deal with these issues. My DS2 is currently always saying (as I'm sure loads do)that my house is bigger than yours, I have loads of this that and the other, which does wind me up a bit but I take into account his age and perhaps an insecurity issue. Tonight my DS1 came home and said that when her DD1 had shouted 'So what, big deal' etc. etc. at DS2 after he had boasted about something my friend had backed her DD1 up and said 'great answer, that's it' etc etc. I just feel a bit hurt for DS2 as I would never interfere with kids spats and certainly not use another child to 'coach' my DC's to fight their battles. It does sound childish (on my part) to be pissed off but can't stop thinking about my DS2 in all innocence saying these things and being used to coach another child to deal with bullying issues.

[paros]

Mine says things like this occasionally and its rude and they sometimes need taking down a peg or two . Mine is 8yrs old .

[MrsSnape]

I probably would have done the same to be honest. There is nothing more annoying than another child constantly trying to pull your own child down. There is a boy at my sons school who is constantly saying to him "we have more money than you, our house is bigger than yours, our holidays are miles nicer than yours, my mum spends more time with me than your does with you, I get so much more for christmas than you do..." and it DOES get annoying and I always tell my son to respond in the same way as that girl did "so what, big deal" or "if you say so", "think that if you like, whatever makes you happy" etc...

And if my kids were saying these things to other children I would be having words with them and would not at all be suprised if some other kids mum had encouraged their child to say something in retaliation.

[purpleduck]

Sorry Flowertop, but by not reeling your ds in a bit, you are taking sides. You see his point of view (he is young) but not how hurt your friend's dd is. And she is already going through a bad time.

7 is not too young to realise that those are NOT the kind of things to say to someone else - especially a friend.

I don't think you have any right to be p----d off.

If my ds (8) was saying things like that, he would have some of his little luxuries taken away pretty damn quick.

[mummyflood]

I probably would not have said it out loud to my DS in that situation, but would not have had a problem with him reacting like that. We have come across several children who have been like this over the years, my DS's are 12 and 14, and no disrespect to you Flowertop, but IMO it would be a good idea to try and nip it in the bud with your DS2. Agree with other posters, I would definitely not tolerate it with either of mine and would not expect other parents to do so either if mine were visiting them and said things like that.

As you say, it happens, it is part of childhood, but like many things IMO does not mean it should be ignored.