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I feel like such a bad mum [sad]

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nappynoonoo · 10/04/2008 15:30

DD is nearly 5 MO and has decided that today was the day that she would fully roll over.

She was on her play gym which I put on our coffee table and she rolled off. I was sat with her playing, but she was so quick. It was like slow motion. I couldn't seem to move my arms to grab her.

She fell on to her side in between the coffee table and the sofa. I picked her up straight away and she cried but only for a few seconds.

I didn't see her hit her head, but logically thinking she must have done. I checked her all over and I cant see any bumps or anything.
I had a GP's appointment this afternoon for me and I took DD and asked him to check her over, he said she seems ok and she was laughing and smiling at him. He did say that if I had any concerns to call the surgery for advice.

She is now sleeping, and I've just been sta here in tears. I feel like such a bad mum

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Tommy · 10/04/2008 15:31

you're not a bad Mum but, tbh, I wouldn't put a baby gym on a coffee table

What's wrong with the floor?

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MarsLady · 10/04/2008 15:31

Oh honey.... you watch. A whole load of mums (that are chained to their pcs rather than doing things with their children ) will come on with stories that will make you realise that you're a postive saint in comparison!

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sweetkitty · 10/04/2008 15:32

I think we have all done this at some point, my DDs have both fallen off things as babies and they are absolutely fine. Don't beat yourself up over it. The other day my DD2 bounced off the bed head first (she's 2 btw) it gets worse.

Today is the day she decided to roll over, from now on she is on the floor only. Lesson learnt.

Honestly do not worry about it.

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sweetkitty · 10/04/2008 15:33

Mars - I have done the good Mummy craft things today and am on here whilst picking sodding Playdoh out my nails!

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nappynoonoo · 10/04/2008 15:33

Our coffee table is really low and I put it on there so that the dog doesn't trample all over DD. He tends to run around manically if people walk past the house or come to the door.
I think I'll have to put the dog in another room while DD is on her play gym in the future.

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MarsLady · 10/04/2008 15:34

Oh...just me then sweetkitty! Lol

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quickdrawmcgraw · 10/04/2008 15:35

dd about the same age rolled off the changing table bumping on each drawer on the way down. I think it always happens once and then you know not to put them up high.
I'm sure your dd is absolutely fine.

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BalletMum · 10/04/2008 15:37

You are only a bad Mum IMO if you do the same thing again!!! Learn from your mistakes that's what I do. I have three children, ds1 fell down the stairs at 5 months, ds2 rolled off the changing mat into a drawer that I had left open whilst I was stood there changing him and I did a classic with dd when I took her out of the baby sling under the boot of the car which was open IYSWIM and knocked her head on the boot. She really cried and I felt terrible. We have all done something silly, we just don't do it again........!!! (I sound like a really terrible Mum now don't I!!!!!)

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MarsLady · 10/04/2008 15:38

[and here they come. ]

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claricebeansmum · 10/04/2008 15:38

Nappynoonoo - don't worry yourself, I am sure she will be fine.

If it is any consolation we only learnt that DS could roll when he rolled off our bed and one the DC but can't remember fell out of a car and I once picked DD up in her car seat but had not strapped her in so she sort of slid onto the concrete floor and once I strapped DS into car seat but not into a car so we went around a roundabout and we only know something was wrong because his noises were a bit muffled .

They do fall and knock themselves but my DC are fine and now 10 & 11. As long as she has not vomited or pass out or any big bangs on the head she should be OK.

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hercules1 · 10/04/2008 15:39

I actually don't think you are human unless your child has fallen off something and it's been due to your neglet.

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nappynoonoo · 10/04/2008 15:41

Balletmum, I can honestly say that I will not let it happen again. My GP kept saying not to worry (While I'm sat in his office with tears running down my face) But thats what us mums do isn't it. We are pre-disposed to worry about or DC.

I just hope that MIL doesn't find out, she has already threatened to have SS take DD off me because I BF her . God only knows what she will say to this.

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padboz · 10/04/2008 15:41

both my children learned to bounce very early on as a coping technique.

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nappynoonoo · 10/04/2008 15:41

LOL marslady

I do feel a bit better hearing this though

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hercules1 · 10/04/2008 15:42

In that case if I were you she'd be the first person I'd tell just to further irritate her.

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nappynoonoo · 10/04/2008 15:45

LOL hercules1, The problem being is that she really would ring SS about it. She's a mad old MIl and hates me with a passion. Although I couldn't give a T**s what she thinks.

I phoned DH to tell him and even he said not to worry.

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maisemor · 10/04/2008 15:45

Somebody convinced me that I should put my 3 months old daughter in a babywalker and she went straight through it banging her head on the floor. Both she and I were in tears and we just went home as I couldn't talk.

She was fine.

My 3 year old boy recently fell head first out of the top bunk (bed). He cried for less than 2 minutes and then started playing with his sister again.

As said you are not a bad mother, but I wouldn't let her play on the table again.

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ladymariner · 10/04/2008 15:49

Welcome to the club, nappy, I would say probably all of us have done something like this, awful as it seems now looking back
My ds rolled off the changing table, laid on the floor like a little screaming rabbit, I grabbed him and ran all over the house with him, me in tears, before forcing myself to stop, take a good look at him, then get him checked over at A&E, just to be on the safe side as the changer was quite high and he was very small!!!
I learned from that!

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pippylongstockings · 10/04/2008 15:55

I'll add my name to the list.....
Shut my DS1 fingers in the car door I wasn't looking.
DS2 spent a night in hospital after falling down the stairs - having taken the stair gate off as we were decorating - very large black/blue egg to forhead!

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phlossie · 10/04/2008 15:56

Here you go, nappynoonoo - this will cheer you up

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nappynoonoo · 10/04/2008 16:01

Phlossie, lol I feel loads better having read just the first few posts.
I'm gonna pop off and read the rest of the tread to help make me feel better.

Thanks

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sweetkitty · 10/04/2008 16:18

Oh and how many of us have whacked their heads on the roof of the car trying to get them into their car seat? Especially when you have the arched back screaming toddler thing going on.

Once she starts to walk she will be covered in bruises if she's anything like my two, you look at any toddler in a buggy chances are they will have a bruise somewhere on their head.

Phoning SS for BFing? So that will be most of the worlds population then!

Oh forgot to say do you have a travel cot? Put her in under the travel gym in the travel cot to keep her safe.

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nappynoonoo · 10/04/2008 16:25

Sweetkitty, thats a really good idea, we have one of those play pen things (baby cage as DH calls them ) TBH I dont know what we haven't used it yet. I'll get DH to fix it up tonight.

DD has just woken up, she fell asleep in the car on the way back from the GP's. She is now talking to the bright yellow warning sticker that is on the inside of the car seat

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chucklingcharlie · 10/04/2008 16:29

DS rolled off the couch a couple of times - one time landing on the dog and decided to pull his ears! Move on a few months and he'd discovered how to unhook his harness in the high chair and took a fall from that trying to climb out!!

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cyteen · 11/04/2008 12:51

My mum accidentally tipped me out of my stroller and headfirst onto the kerb when I was very little, apparently But don't worry, I was soon big enough to try and bash my own head in (cut eyebrow on glass coffee table, fell headfirst onto tiled kitchen floor, the list goes on...)

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