DS has decided he doesnt like his dad

[cathshuck]

Whilst I am posting I want some help with this one. My ds 2.5 used to wait for his dad to come home, they would wrestle, watch steam train vids etc. Now he wont go near him, screams if he picks him up, ignores him if he talks to him, wont look at him a lot of the time. DH is very upset understandably. Has this happened with anyone else? Have tried to reassure him it is prob just a phase?

[ArmadilloDaMan]

It's a phase.

IME it lasts a few months.

Then daddy will be his favourite.

Mine has a mummy phase at the mo. He's getting out of it a bit though.

I just leave him with dp and bugger off for a bit.

I have to leave house though otherwise he just finds me and screams if dp tries to remove him.

He also tells dp that he hates him/doesn't love him etc.

Not nice, but will pass.

[cathshuck]

SOunds familiar - my ds doesnt talk except for mummy or da though but as they say actions speak louder than words. Think I may just have to leave them to it tomorrow as if I am around he automatically comes to me.

[dgeorgea]

As others say it is a phase. If dp can relax and not get upset it will pass quickly enough.

My dd is 14 and we have been through several phases, including a very rough patch. Becoming a lot more relaxed about it often helps.

At times though my wife has not appreciated my 'relaxed' approach. When dd was 3 or 4 she came down just after midnight to find us cuddled up singing to Aristocats scoffing popcorn and drinking milk.

I think for me one of the hardest times in our relationship was when she was 9 and decided she was too old to be read to in bed. I had gone through the early stages, 'red, blue, ball, red ball, blue ball etc to being asked to read the same story over and over again. We finally got to a real good book and was half way through it when she decided she was too old. I often joke dw came up to find us fighting over the book. I pointed out that it had got to a good part and I wanted to see what happened next. She told me to grow up and walked off.

hmmm come to think of it she used to say that a lot to me dd still laughs because I insist bedtime reading is a cruel hoax by children to put their dads in their place when they are older. Secretly I still miss it though, but don't let on.

But seriously, I doubt if your son has gone off his dad. The relationship goes through stages and I often find when my dd breaks off one phase there is an adjustment period and it picks up again. With us now I cannot get into her music, so that is a mummy thing, but mum cannot get into her tv shows so that is a daddy thing. Though if anyone has any understanding what Naruto is about I would appreciate a quick run down

I say it a lot, but if parents can relax and go with the flow it does help to get past these phases much quicker and easier.