Having a 3rd child ??????????? YES or NO

[puccaupunderthemistletoe]

Dh and i are thinking about thinking about maybe going for no 3.

We already have dd who is 4 in January and ds who is 16 mths.

Sooooooooo

What are the good and bad about having a third child? is there anything that is a problem due to having 3 children? it would mean a shared bedroom for the 2 of the same sex, as cannot see us moving in the foreseeable future, plus we are very happy where we are.

Would having another mean we would need a bigger car? (we have an estate).

Really need to think it through of course, all aspects of the effects of having another baby.

Any advice/experience or pearls of wisdom very much appreciated

[TwinklyfLightAttendant]

Bumping for you, only have two myself

[BandofReindeerwaitingontheroof]

No pearls here. My 2 are the same age as yours and I think we'll stop now. Couldn't imagine having another one, you must be MAD!!!

[bealcain]

i'm currently pg with dc3, ds1 is 2.2 and ds2 is 9mo...i dont have a problem with sharing rooms and think that the middle child syndrome is now so commonly known that there re always ways to prevent it now. we have an estate and aren't planning on a bigger car yet, just going to put one of the dc in the front seat and i'll sit in back when it comes to us all gonig out together. for the majority of the time it;s just me and dc so car will be fine. besides if we were going away anywhere we'd probably just hire something as it;s so cheap to do so these days

[DanJARMouse]

I have DD1 (3.4yrs) DD2 (2.1yrs) and DS (18days)

Its hard bloody work! Im lucky in that I have DH home to help, but it is sooooo hard. Our girls share a room, and thats good because it makes them feel more secure.

You would probably fit 3 car seats in an estate... we had thought about getting one until we managed to get a cheap 8 seater from ebay.

It has to ultimately be your decision. If you want another child, have one!

[eidsvold]

hard hard work but I love it.

dd1 was 4y8mths and dd2 2y4months when we had no3. Great gap but totally not planned - the gap that is.

I always wanted more than two but struggled at the start with how long it took to do things like get all three in the car, get all three out of car, get ready to go out etc.

No3 is my 'perfect' baby - ha ha ha - probably turn into the demon child tomorrow BUT seriously she seems so much more laid back than the other two - she is okay with being carted here there and everywhere after the other two.

BUT it is hard work - seriously.

We have the two older dds sharing a room which can be a pain at times but they have settled into it okay.

We can get three car seats across the back of our car - so that is okay - did not need a new car.

I love my three dds and can't imagine life without them

[ChristmasSendsMePsycho]

well I am slightly biased as I have 5, but I would say.......GO FOR IT!

for me, baby no.3 was the easiest baby to slot into our family. DD1 then was nearly 5 and DD2 was nearly 3 and both were at nursery/reception at the local school. it meant that baby was already in tune with the routines of the family and as I had already 'done it' twice befoer, I knew the basics. (well, nothing is quite the same, BYKWIM).

car wise, we had a normal estate car and didn't need bigger (that came with the next pregnancy), and as for sharing rooms, the girls already were so that wasn't a problem either. we had a room for me to set up as a nursery and I loved it......especially as we had had the older girls in a small 2 bed flat and this was our new 3 bed house. (yes, we did the new house/new baby thing!!!!).

money wise, we still had a lot of equipment. both the girls were out of nappies and also of an age to 'help', plus they were out of the house for at least half the day each and so the third baby had time with just me (incidently, we had a third daughter so was even easier re clothes etc).

I would say to anyone........the third is the easiest, especially if it the at least the same sex as one of them before. for e, the hardest and most shocking was the second....not least because my expectations were blown out of the water. (I had nannied twins for five years before becoming a mum and thought it would be the same thing.......IT SOOOOOOOOOOO WASN'T!)

OOh, the next biggest shock for me, and this is only my shock again, was having a boy for my 4th baby......oh my god, what was that all about.....willies and all that. .

if you want it, go for it, all you will always wonder 'what if'.

hth

[FoghornLeghorn]

I am pregnant with DC3 and although we planned it, in reality it has taken me a while to get my head around having 3.

I agree with Hatrick and JARM (sorry DanJARMouse), if you want another, go for it, things always work out.
BTW our DD's are 3yrs 5months and 13 months

[puccaupunderthemistletoe]

Thanks everyone, for all the advice

I think Christmassends hit the nail on the head.i found it quite difficult going from 1 to 2, much harder than i had imagined, so i am thinking that going from 2 to 3 much be just as bad! eek!

I feel i do want another, dh quite happy either way lol, but i am a little frightened i guess, also not sure how i would give each child attention individually as i struggle a little now with only 2!

Must be mad to even consider a 3rd, had a bad time having dd naturally, then had a section with ds, which was worse! plus i hate being pregnant lol, but i can't imagine ds being my last.