Right then, where do I start?
I have a dd who is almost 9yrs old. She is a friendly child who loves her friends and values the friendships she has gained over the years.
However she has always been friends with another girl since Reception year but this year they have done nothing but fall out. Last year - Year 3 - they were split because I felt my dd was living in this other girl's shadow too much - the other girl is an extremely confident child - larger than life both in the physical sense but also in the verbal side of things.
During Year 3 my dd blossomed at school - she went and made new friends and imo came out of her shell.
Now we're in Year 4 and the other girl and my dd are back in the same class and it is not going at all well. The other girl constantly talks over dd - they come out of class and the other girl will talk for dd and tell me what dd has done during the day and it got so bad last week I told the other girl to be quiet so I could hear dd. She is such a bossy child and yet she will sob like a baby when she wants to.
DD is now saying she doesn't want to be friends with this other girl, which is absolutely fine with me, BUT I am really good friends with her Mum and I'm finding it really difficult to talk to her about it.
My dd has her birthday coming up and she is now telling me she doesn't want this other girl to come - which is understandable - plus not to bother with an Xmas present for her - which we've done every year since Year R.
I know 'kids are kids' and 'girls can be fickle' but I'm fed up with this other girl too and I hate seeing dd so upset some evenings after school and so despondent and physically worn out having to stand up for herself.
I'm waffling now...sorry - but its really playing on my mind.
Any hints/ideas anyone?
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Help with a 9yr old dd and her ex-best friend....please?!
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whispywhisp · 06/12/2007 16:58
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