Need to rant! probs with a 20 month old!

[DavidTennantsMistress]

how's having mega tantrums every time he's told no or some thing's taken away from him.

is off of his food in a big way and is currently eating only the things he won't do.

is waking up again at least once in the night and I feel like a zombie.

and I feel like the worlds worst mother cos he won't eat his dinner that was cooked (roast) so I said fruit or nothing else for afters and his grandfather gave him some pie which really annoyed me as a) i'd said no and b ) I don't want DS to think it's ok to eat the pudding and leave the main meal.

ooh and while i'm on a rant he's stopped letting me brush his teeth he's insisting on doing it himself and basically just sucks it the toothpaste/water off the brush.

(AGHHHH!!) I know it's my fault partly as i've been letting him get away with more than usual of late what with H leaving etc but with absolutely no help form H i'm going mad! lol.

any advice welcomed!

[Toothyboy]

DTM - don't worry it's not you ! Ds2 is exactly the same and has been for a few months now. He's not talking much yet so I think is just really frustrated that he can't communicate very well. Also trying to get some control over his life. It's the terrible twos starting I'm afraid!

It will get better (it did with ds1 anyway!). It's the same old story about setting boundaries/rules and being consistent. I can understand why it's hard for you at the moment, so in your position I would do whatever it takes to get through the day and start dealing with the behaviour when you feel ready to.

Best wishes.

[lenny101]

Just a thought - could it be second year molars trying to put in an appearance along with everything else (night waking, not wanting to brush etc)? Such a frustrating time for everyone, including you x

[bubblepop]

typical 20 month old behaviour! i try and get mine to sing "aaaaaa" when im brushing teeth,atleast then ive got some chance of getting the toothbrush in there. failing that its a bit of a wrestle and a few tears but not half as upsetting as toothache for them i suppose.

[Lizzylou]

My 20mth old is exactly the same.
Getting out of the house takes 15mins minimum as he won't have his shoes on etc etc. Just asserting himself, I suppose.
It is just a phase, I know that from DS1 so I take deep breaths, keep on repeating what I want him to do and don't give in.

You are doing a brilliant job, don't feel down, just rest assured that he won't be like this forever!

[Lizzylou]

Getting hims to "Roooaaarr" like a lion then zooming in with the brush makes life easier at teeth time in our house!

[sophiewd]

DTM not just you having same problems here.

[coppertop]

It's not your fault, DTM.

Dd is the same age and is doing exactly the same kinds of things. My ears are still ringing from tonight's shrieks and screams.

[Astrophe]

dmt cheer up, ds is the same - moody, sulks when he can't get his own way, eats if he feels like it (usually not at dinner times, but 2 minutes after I have thrown the dinner away or eaten it myself). He hits his sister, snatches, throws his little body onto the floor, and right now I am sitting on the landing outside his room as he wont go to sleep without me. Charming little creatures aren't they

Hang in there.
x

[DavidTennantsMistress]

thanks girls for keeping me sane! lol.

he's been better today, treid to give him an extra bottle (I know last night) when I went up thinking then he wouldn't wake but he stuck his tounge out at me and grinned (had eyes shut thou) so I'm assuming knows exactly what he was doing - GREMLIN!!!

it's nice to see so many of you are from the march antinatal thread thou! lol. gremlins we have! still at least today he's eaten all of his dinner (althou no brekkie) so he's had something I guess, and his grandparents are watching him now for me. I was thinking this is all part and parcel of the terrible 2's/him wanting some independence now but OMG he'll be lucky to live till xmas at this rate! (I don't mean that of course! lol)

lenny - yes I did wonder if it was teeth - yesterday he had his head cockeyed with an ear pressed against his shoulder so that did make me wonder.

really wish AOL would sort their bottoms out thou so I had MN at home instead of 10 mins away in the cyber cafe! lol.