what do you do when you don't get support from dh when you're dealing with an awkard teenager?

[choxanwine]

Living with a 14 yr old ds is difficult enough without having a useless dh not giving you the support you need at critical times. Most conflicts with ds are relatively minor (thankfully) but usually blow up out of all proportion when I get dh involved - which is when I'm exasperated and expect him to pick up where I've left off, ie "why haven't you done what Mum has told you three times - NOW DO IT") No - instead he'll come along and go back to square one with the asking nicely bit - never mind that I've already told ds THREE times to do something. Also, he's totally different with dd (12)- he doesn't hesitate to make it clear that he's angry that she hasn't done what I've asked or done something she shouldn't. I lost it with him on Sunday and when I'd calmed down yesterday I spelt out (AGAIN) why I was so livid. I'm still waiting for an intelligent response.... Am I being unreasonable???

[choxanwine]

oops - I somehow managed to post this twice. what does 'flip' mean? I think I clicked by mistake... thick or what? duuhhh