Why does my ds cry at the same time each day?

[MrsMar]

He always crys between 8pm and 10pm, always when we're trying to have dinner. It's not so much the inconvenience that bothers me, but nothing calms him and we end up getting very stressed about it. I usually feed him around 7pm in the hope that he's tired afterwards and sleeps for a couple of hours while we eat, but it never happens that way, we always end up eating in turns and getting ratty with each other trying to console a crying baby. In the end I resort to giving him a dummy and letting him fall asleep in my arms. What I'd really like to do is to break this cycle of crying at the same time each day. He's only 2 weeks old so am I expecting too much? Should I just accept that we're not going to be able to have a meal together, at least for a while? I'm really worried that giving him a dummy this early is going to upset bfing but he's in such distress I can't bear him being so miserable. Any advice?

[TheArmadillo]

is it wind or colic?

IF so there's a few things you could try for that.

Fennel tea (you drink it), avoid caffine (you again obv), infacol helps some, tummy massage.

[MascaraOHara]

this is a joke, right?

he 2 WEEKS OLD?!?

[LazyLinePainterJane]

IMO, you are expecting a tad too much, a meal together without interruption at 2 weeks old.

We would take it in turns to eat while the other held the baby or rocked him.

[ratfly]

can't remember if it was as early as 2 weeks, but ds cried from about 8 - 10pm each night too. it was the witching hour for babies, and is very common. i think it came down to constantly wanting to feed whilst being knackered.
just accept that its going to be like this, and prepare for it.

[iwouldgoouttonight]

I'm afraid you have to accept you'll be eating cold food with one hand for a little while longer! Mine used to cry a lot in the evenings and wanted feeding constantly - I think its quite normal - I remember very clearly spending the evenings walking around the house rocking him until he slept. I found he gradually went to sleep earlier and earlier and eventually went to sleep at 7pm and stayed asleep. I think giving him a dummy if he's really distressed and been fed, rocked, etc and still not settled is fine - as long as you don't use it all the time without checking everything else first.

It does get easier!

[MrsMar]

Ok ok, so I know I'm expecting too much now I just wanted some reassurance that I'm not going to be able to eat a hot meal for a bit! Just needed to check that it's normal, I guess it is, thanks for replies though!

[unicorn]

Any chance you can you eat your dinner earlier? Then you may not be as stressed and he may calm down quicker too... just a thought.

[HonoriaGlossop]

I agree that the evening is a very common time for this crying where they won't be consoled. I admire you for even THINKING of having a meal together with a two week old baby, DH and I were still at the stage of A) looking at eachother with wild, mad eyes and saying "ug....food....." and B) sending out for a pizza and C) eating it with baby draped over one of us.

it really is totally to be expected....infacol was a lifesaver for us, the baby has a dollop before each feed. It seemed to help ds so much, but it took until he was around 6 weeks before he got settled in the evenings; I know that's quite early, too, some babies take longer. but by six weeks-ish we had our evenings back. Take heart!

[InMyHumbleOpinion]

accept it

don't expect to have a meal together for the next 6 months, then you won't be disappointed.

he is 2 weeks old, not even aware that he isn't a part of ytour body any more, and he needs you. Hold him.

I know what a shock to the system it is, to be a slave to the whim of someone so bloody unreasonable, but this will pass.

[Katsma]

Oh, I remember this well. Agree with IMHO, hold baby, eat cold food, try not to drop any food on baby

This colicky stage lasted 12 wks for us, then stopped overnight. Don't worry, there is light at at the end of the tunnel

[Bennj]

He is only 2 weeks old!!!!!! I think you are expecting way to much!!! - You remind me of myself!

My son had colic so would cry at 5pm-7pm everynight. It was awful and I didnt know what to do.

My midwife told me about Infacol. This is a great medicine which works a treat. Before every feed give 1-2 dopler full of Infacol and it makes all the little bubbles of air turn into 1 big bubble so its easier to burp it out and then they dont have the pain. You can buy Infacol from Boots etc for about £2.50.

It may not be wind related and he may just want a cuddle! He is only a few weeks old and has no idea what is going on, a dummy will help as just sucking on something will relax him.

I promise you, you will be able to have meals together again! Give it a bit more time though!!

Good luck