i'm so sad

[pyjamagirl]

I have 5 dc and really want another dp says no way and I will feel terrible if I do as my sister is having trouble concieving
I just feel sick cos I want a baby so much I know in reality I cant why is my body doing this to me??

Anyone else got over severe broodiness?

[choufleur]

i would love to have another (but not quiet yet) but had real trouble conceving 1st time - had to take clomid and apparently turned into an evil, moody swinging banshee. i didnt feel great while taking it either so won't take it again and chances are won't get pregnant without it as i just don't ovulate.
Sounds very easy to say but i just think how lucky i am to have ds. i know people who haven't got dcs and would give their right arm to have one.
on a different note how do you cope with 5 let alone 6, i struggle with one

[pyjamagirl]

I'm not trying to sound flippant but I just love it I just feel like I have a big gap where a new baby should be

[cruisemum1]

how old is your youngest dc?

[juuule]

How old is your eldest?

[pyjamagirl]

my youngest is 22 months and my eldest is 10

[HonoriaGlossop]

That's ten years that you've had a baby in the house, in a way. It could be that you are totally used to that and miss it, entirely understandably. It doesn't necessarily mean that you should have another; maybe just that for ten years you've not faced this position, of no baby coming along or being planned. That's very different and change is hard.....

and equally it's possible that you really simply want another!

I think one way to get over how you feel may be to focus on the children you already have, and focus on the benefits to them if you stay as you are....one more child takes a bit of attention away from them, and it must be hard to split yourself five ways as it is?

Do you think about things you would like to do in life that aren't child related? Would focusing more on that help?

[kidsx4]

I feel the same i have 4 youngest will be 1 on sunday, eldest 13 and i really would like another 1.

[pyjamagirl]

it's horrible isn't it totally irrational but I can't help it

[kidsx4]

My reasons for not having another is money and space.

[juuule]

I don't think there is very much you can do when you feel like this. Nothing much worked for me and I now have 9 children.
I asked how old your oldest was because there does come a point (or there did for us) where you begin to feel as though you are managing two families. Your older children begin to need completely different setup to the younger children. Holidays to suit all age groups becomes a bit of a challenge (that's if you can afford a holiday at all). You can be in the middle of hormonal teens and gcse stresses but still dealing with toddler tantrums.
My eldest ds is at university now and I would love to be able to just up and off to stay with him for a week here and there. But I have the younger ones to consider so don't have the freedom to do that.
However, having said that, I think all the children have benefitted from having older/younger siblings. It gets to be a bit of a logistical nightmare sometimes but I would do the same thing again.
I still get broody. But nature has intervened and I'm happy with that as I can't guarantee that I will live to a fit and able 100. I now know how much support older children need and benefit from and would prefer to be around to help out my younger children when they are older.
I do know of several people who have taken 3 or 4 years before the broodiness has passed. So maybe if you give it a bit longer you might find things ease off. I think it takes a while for hormones to settle down for some people.
Perhaps given time your dh might come around to the idea of another baby if he comes to realise how much it means to you. With time you might decide that not having anymore is more beneficial to your family all round.
It's a tough one to struggle with and you have my sympathy. I hope it resolves for you soon, one way or another.