Right to cut a very long story short.
DTDs were previously friendly with a girl - lets call her 'Maureen'.
Maureen has decided that DTD2 can't be their (Maureen's or DTD1's) friend. DTD2 would like to be her friend - but isn't bothered if she isn't IYSWIM.
Maureen tries to control both DTDs. She won't let DTD1 decide on the games to play - but they remain friends. Maureen either decides DTD2 must play with them, following her around the playground if she doesn't obey or decides DTD2 can't play with her (depending on mood). DTD2 is quite upset by this.
There is lots of "DTD2 is never going to be my friend/come to my party...." talk and whispering with DTD1 - which is upsetting DTD2.
There is lots of DTD1 is better than DTD2 because blah blah blah......
Maureen and DTD1 have even fabricated a story whereby DTD2 apparently bit Maureen.
I don't want to force children to be friends or not be friends - but I am just not sure what to do.
Maureen is one of the friends that they go on playdates to. I don't know how to get DTD2 to understand she shouldn't go because they are not friends IYSWIM. She loves the excitement 'going to someone elses house'.
DTD2 is basically being bullied on various levels. I don't want to confront mother as I know she has a lot on her plate at the moment (inc. single mother, depression, recent bereavement) - she is aware that there are general problems with her maureens behaviour in and out of school. I would love if neither DTDs were her friend (I don't particularly like her) - but I don't want to dictate their friends.
Any experiences? HInts? Tips?
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Playground politics especially concerning twins. Bullying?
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SlightlyMadSlug · 06/06/2007 21:20
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