He was really really naughty yesterday in town. I told him that if he carried on wandering off instead of staying with me, he would not be allowed to have his Marble Run out today. He didn't listen, and now he has asked for his marble run out. I have said no.
He has nagged me mercilessly for the past hour, and he just does not comprehend what I am talking about. I tell him no, he asks why, I explain, ask "do you understand?"
"Don't know. can I have my marble run out now? I will be good!"
What am I doing wrong here? I obviously am doing something wrong!
He is four, has impulse control problems and a moderate speech delay, but his comprehension is spot on for his age.
On the one hand, he doesn't seem to recall what he did and I said yesterday, or indeed 3 seconds ago. On the other hand, he has no problem recalling that the marble run is there, so his memory cannot be that bad, and if I stop following through on punishments he will get worse and worse.
I am trying really hard to be positive but he does the most stupid things sometimes - like flicking his belt in his brother's face - that make me see red and I end up bellowing at him. Coupled with the fact that he seems perfectly able to deny my presence if I am saying something he doesn't want to hear, I don't know how much of what I say he is understanding, and therefore how much I should pick him up on for ignoring.
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Please please help me to deal with ds1 today
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colditz · 15/04/2007 10:46
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