One of the tabloid newspapers recently reported that Ken Livingstone is to be a Dad at age 57. His wife/girlfriend is aged 36. The story stated that he may find it difficult being a father because he has a heavy workload and is ?old?. This is an issue close to my heart as I am 36 and DH is 56 and is father to our 2 children, aged nearly 3 and 6 weeks.
I wondered what others felt about ?old? dads. I?d particularly like to hear from those of you who had an older father yourself and how you felt about him.
This issue was discussed on a TV show which said that older fathers tended to bond well with their children, generally had more time for them, they were keener to have the children, they didn?t resent them taking up their time/space/finances and tended to be more secure stable people. Generally they were more relaxed about childcare particularly if this was their 2nd family. Financially they were often better off (having paid off the mortgage, promotion at work etc). Older can mean wiser so they were able to provide good advice to their children.
On the downside they tended not to play football in the park ? and well there didn?t seem to be much else except ?looking a bit fuddy-duddy? and embarrassing their kids in front of their friends (but as someone pointed out ALL parents do this regardless of their age). The obvious point of course is that Dad won?t be around when the kids are older (say from around age 20 onwards), however do we have a duty to ?be there? for our children when they are adults themselves? And of course mum will still be around.
My DH being older hasn?t been an issue for us and I can say that he has plenty of energy (he is currently renovating our house) and he is hardly so decrepit that he couldn?t kick a football if he wanted to. (How many Dads actually do this anyway? Don?t kids what to play football with their friends?) If it is ?wrong? to be an older Dad then why did nature allow men to continue producing sperm and be able to procreate for basically as long as they are able to ?do it?!?
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Eulalia · 01/06/2002 16:03
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