Hi, we have a 22 month old and a 12 week old. Our 22 month old is a lovely child, delayed in speaking but very good at non verbal communicating. Like many children, if he is frustrated he shows this by biting. We have worked on it and he now only bites if he is overtired. My husband knows this, and yet we get into frequent disagreements. My husband loves doing bedtime and if I offer will usually insist, which works well as the baby cluster feeds. Usually it works well. But, to give an example, tonight he was on the phone to his parents- he doesn't get to talk to them often. My toddler started yawning, I asked if I should take him up and was told no, it's still early he can wait. My toddler 5 mins later shook the stairgate and shouted 'up'. My husband ignored him and I told him daddy wouldn't be long. He played for a few mins then bit my husband, who walked away. He followed and bit again. I told him no and asked if he was tired, he said yes and I told him again that he could go up soon. My husband was another 20mins by which point I had ignored him saying wait and was feeding baby in the bathroom whilst bathing toddler. My husband is annoyed I started bedtime and is also angry toddler bit him-he says he knows he is tired but toddler needs to learn to wait. I have asked if we can agree that I do bedtime when he is busy and he says toddler just needs to learn patience. Am I wrong that toddler should just be allowed to go up early if he asks to? It just seems silly to let him get overtired when he asks for bed. If I'm right, how do I explain this? And any advice for stopping the overtired bites if he should wait? Sorry for such a long post
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freyasiobhan · 13/11/2016 20:09
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