DD1 is 2 and a half. She was born 12 weeks early and had a long and difficult journey through NICU which contributed to her being very spoilt and me being very protective. Aside from a few phases she is the happiest little girl, she listens, she says please and thank you and she is generally lovely.
DD2 was born 4 weeks ago. She was 7 weeks early and I spent the first two weeks at the hospital with her which was difficult for me and DD1. She acted out a little bit but mainly she just broke my heart by crying for me and telling me she wanted to come home.
DD1 is really good with her new sister. She's quite protective, wants to hold her hand and give her cuddles and doesn't actually act jealous - she'll tell me to hold her, has never told me to put her down or shown any resentment towards her at all.
BUT DD1 has become a nightmare in other ways. She ignore us, she will run off when we're out shopping (she's never done this before), she sulks (also a new thing) and yesterday she had a complete meltdown because she had to take her swimming nappy off - she screamed all the way back to the car (this was my first experience of full on embarrassing tantrum!)
Yesterday I spent some time with DD1 just the two of us - nothing major but I'm breastfeeding so it's been difficult to get that time. She was a completely different person! She was the little girl she was before DD2 was born. Until DH came back with DD2 and then the sulking and refusal to do anything started again,
I just don't know how to handle this. I completely understand why she's acting out and that its normal and I'm really glad that she's not directing any of her frustration towards her sister. But what do we do? Just ride it out? Is it a phase she'll just get through? I don't want to constantly be telling her off because that could make things worse but at the same time I don't want her to think her behaviour is okay - some things I can let slide but there's been some hitting and grabbing and I'm not letting that go.
Feeling like a bit of a shit mum at the moment so any help, tips or advice would be much appreciated.
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Itsaplayonwords · 18/07/2016 10:59
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